For me, talking to new people. When I was in kindergarten, I'd just go up to a new kid, and be like"Hi! Wanna be my friend??? Great! We're friends now!"
Today it's more like "Who are you, and why are you in my vicinity???"
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Real. Making a friend as kid was so much easier. We had formal systems and if a friendship didn't work out, you had a system to break the friendship too, no hard feelings. None of this perpetually ambiguous nonsense we have to deal with as adults
Dude. I'm 40 years old, snd I work a job that has a rotating door. Which means they hire anybody, and fire people dho don't "get it".
So I work with a bunch of teenagers/early 20s kids.
One of them asks me, "Lost_My_Mind, why don't you talk to us? Are we too much for you?"
Bitch please. I've worked hotel 3rd shifts in seedy motels, where I've LITERALLY.....LITERALLY needed to csll EMS 3x in an 8 hour shift, because 3 different unrelated people OD'd on heroin on a single shift. You wanna get crazy? No, you don't honey, because it would literally KILL you.
And what I wanted to say to her, was "I don't talk to anyone, because I know all of this, this conversation, these set of people, everything you know in life, it's all temporary. It's all bullshit. All your friends will turn their back on you, violently if needed. But you haven't reached your 30s yet. You haven't seen people for their trueself. So buckle up, because life is about to take a fucking nose dive. All your dreams are dead."
I WANTED to say that. Instead, to protect her innocence, I just said "I'm just quiet".
She doesn't know it, but I'm brunting the majority of the bullshit at our work, because I know she's pregnant. I take the fall for mistakes she makes, because I don't want to see that baby get born into a world where its mother doesn't have a paycheck to feed them.
But as far as making conversation? I'm as useless as her 6 month old in belly unborn baby.
In retrospect, I feel as if I've gone off on a tangent. For that, I can only say that Aldis Natures Nectar lemonaide is an EXCELLENT mix with various vodkas.
Last night I had Strawberry Lemonaide mixed with Crystal Skull vodka (vodka in a glass skull from a company owned by dan akroid. I drank it in a souveneer ghostbusters cup I got from the threater when I saw the most recent Ghostbusters movie.
Tonight I'm trying Skyy raspberry infusions mixed with natures nectar standard lemonside.
Last nights drink 10/10 tasted like a jolly rancher.
Tonights drink 8/10. It just tastes like lemonaid, except I'm fucked up. Real smooth drink though.
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Jerking off.
Fourth time this hour and I’m mostly just waving it around now.
SatansMaggotyCumFart back again with the best comments
Hearing. Hearing damage does not ever get better, it just accumulates.
Same with seeing. Used to be able to see without glasses, now every time I go to the optometrist I need stronger glasses.
Sleeping
It's way easier when you're tired
Going out in public. When you're young you really don't notice just how fucking stupid people are. It gets to the point you actively avoid being in groups of people due to the overwhelming amount of stupid. Shopping trips go from whenever you want to aiming for when the store opens or just before close so the hoards of fools are less likely to be around.
I fell in love with the city about a decade ago but now in my 30’s just walking the dog around the block pisses me off.
You really need to park in the middle of the street to drop someone off when there’s tons of available street parking at 2 PM on a Tuesday?
You’re mad at me because your dog barked at mine after you chased me down while I was actively trying to avoid you?
What’s up with that Honda that always sits in the middle of an obscure and dangerous intersection for like 10 minutes every day?
Some days I wish I lived in a cabin in the forest, damn.
Yeah similarly you also get worse at being responsible on nights out the more often you go out drinking
Signing my name. If you've ever had to sign on a mortgage, oh my God they start out looking like words and end up looking like scribbles.
My realtor told us on the first day "just scribble in the rough shape of your name, you've gotta do 500 signatures may as well be consistent "
My wife and I were gonna order stamps to do it but that's not allowed.
Makes me so glad my mortgage signing happens via DocuSign.
A difficult music passage. Sometimes you gotta take a break and revisit.
Same for video games lol
This actually is true. There's a part of your brain that works really hard when you're exposed to new information and it needs time to take that information and codify it.
If you do something difficult mentally, and then take a break, and then come back and do it again 12 or 24 hours later it will be easier and you will be better at it.
If you learn something wrong, the more you use the skill, the harder it becomes to unlearn and kill the habits you learned in the first place.
Im about to get a driver's license, but I have to spend a lot of time unlearning bad things I was taught by my parents. Different rules they don't follow which have become instincts of mine since they taught me to drive. In this intace they're pretty minor, but damn is It hard to get rid of them once they becomes instincts.
Reminds me of when I first got my driver's license. I was driving with my mother as the passenger and I turned right on red when there was no other traffic around. She said something like, "You didn't even stop before turning!" And I looked at her and replied, "So? Are you supposed to stop? You never do."
This is correct. This concept is taught in the Fundamentals of Instruction as the Rule of Primacy. That which is learned first is best retained. It is more difficult and time consuming to correct a bad habit than establish a good one from scratch.
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I'm twisting the question a bit but people who are extremely good in their own field are more often than not very bad at explaining concepts related to it to laymen and they get worse the more they know.
I knew someone would share it
That's a major skill I learned while training for my flight instructor certificate, how to break down concepts for the uninitiated. Make no mistake that is a skill you have to learn and practice.
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Being young
Mixing cocktails. The more I practice, the harder it gets.
*burp*
Breathing. Eventually you fail entirely.
Weirdly Bowling. The first games I can hit a couple strikes the later games I'm seriously considering putting the barricades up.
Arm fatigue. Bowling balls are heavy! I have the same thing happen to me.
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Getting married. The more times people have been married, the less likely they are to have a good marriage.
Aren't you comparing getting married to being married here? I guess if you got married 11 times, you should be quite good in the process of getting married like knowing all the procedures, organizing everything, finding the right words etc.
You might even get a special rebate as you probably know the staff of the involved companies better than your spouses at this rate.
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Caring.
Anything repetitive. I just care less and less and quality suffers accordingly.
Typing with oen haad n
Stop masturbating with the other
Don't tell me what to do! In fact, later tonight I'm gonna beat it to your reply, and there's nothing you can do about it!
I already did it
Being alive.
Babies are pretty bad at staying alive. My 2 year old cousin will actively run full speed towards traffic.
Perhaps we should let nature take its course /s
Thinking about uncontrollable stuff
Live.
Connecting with people with things I'm interested in.
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