seconding you go to c/askchapo. the gist of it though is that if we smell a hint of reaction in anything you say, the knives, guns, and attack owls come out. otherwise hexbear is kinda very cuddly and a great place for lgbt users, it has some of the most heavy-handed anti-queerphobe moderation ive ever seen on an online space, it mimics the more radical elements of an irl pride event very well. well over 50% of the mod and admin team are queer of some kind at this point and a good number are trans (me included, i mod c/traa). the mod team also takes nsfw tags and content tags for handling violence against women more serious than any space ive seen on the internet outside of maybe news sites that have the default shocking content label.