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[–] ComradeRat@hexbear.net 58 points 5 months ago (14 children)

As one of the "sex repulsed ace" folks who gets shot at / tokenised / ignored / etc by all sides

marx-joker thonk-cri blob-stabby

Allosexuality deeply normalised and world is scream. Can't use goddamn pleading emotes anymore because the goddamn allosexuals stole the goddamn emote to mean "bottom" and have turned anxious behaviours, nervousness, etc, into sexualised "bottom behaviour" to contrast "top behaviour" (fucking hell my fellow queers have recreated masculine and feminine gender roles down to their association with sexual behaviour! Infuriating!).

Also its fucking creepy that "pickup line" "stutter/blush/etc" "kissing / etc" being taken as "consent" is BACK but now its fine bc its gay? pooh-wtf Like god i don't want my anxieties taken as "i just secretly want the hornies??"

markkks-juggalo

Oh and the jokes from other queers about turning everyone gay etcetc and i'm like "fuck you i don't wanna be gay i hate this whole sex and romance thing"

So yeah notta fun month here ! ! !

thonk-cri

[–] AutomatedPossum@hexbear.net 15 points 5 months ago (1 children)

So after your other comment itt, i'm generous enough to give you the benefit of the doub that you're really just tired off allonormativity, but this post still rubs me the wrong way. I'm gonna keep my original gut level reaction to this deleted, but i still feel that your entire post sounds like kinkshamy, queerphobic bad faith shit hidden behind a wall of word salad. This really creeps me out and reminds me way too much of people making queer spaces irl unsafe for my friends and me.

[–] ComradeRat@hexbear.net 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I'm sorry to have reminded you of people IRL making queer spaces unsafe for you and your friends.

I have no idea where/why the accusation of bad faith (or especially queer and kinkphobia) is coming from, and wish you'd explain more rather than telling me that my (probably too genuine) depressed 2AM rant based on my experiences with other queer people is bad faith stuff meant to hide some real message.

I have never supported removing kink at pride. Largely I dont go to pride events bc 1. Loud and 2. Lots of people and 3. Usually unmasked people. My issues with allosexuality and romance are pmuch the same issues a lotta my gay friends have with cis romance/sexuality (i.e. its omnipresent, shoved in face, held up as super important for maturity, universal, most important relationship etcetc). Kink doesnt make me uncomfortable, as generqlly the people into various kinks arent the hegemonic group in society constantly shouting "be like me or you are worth less as a human being".

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