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[–] CyborgMarx@hexbear.net 116 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)
[–] barrbaric@hexbear.net 47 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Jesus, two secret families just seems like a lot of work.

[–] RNAi@hexbear.net 35 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Hold on so this guy had three different families at the same time?

What's the fucking point of living three lies

[–] CrawlMarks@hexbear.net 27 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

That was how middle class boomers did unethical nonmenogamy. Cause like, the secret families probably had hobbies as well. Or they just found people who enjoyed not having a boomer man around as head of household. Thinking about it, that sounds preferable to alot of boomer relationships I hear about

[–] TraschcanOfIdeology@hexbear.net 33 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Imagine being able to provide for your family, let alone two.

[–] CrawlMarks@hexbear.net 27 points 1 month ago

Boomers played the game of life on easy mode

[–] Balefirex@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago

Yea I don't even want to live one life

[–] CarmineCatboy2@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago

at that point i think it was a competition

[–] TraschcanOfIdeology@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago

Polygamists are something else, man.

[–] IMF_DOOM@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago

My ex-uncle had like three or four and ngl he was pretty good at managing it all for decades so no one knew until it suddenly all fell apart five or six years ago

[–] KnilAdlez@hexbear.net 86 points 1 month ago (4 children)

What's the point of a polycule if you all live in different places? Damn, that's so much money wasted on rent.

[–] TraschcanOfIdeology@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I don't necessarily want to live with someone I'm dating, at least in the early stages? Not all polycules are super committed relationships, or not everyone in the polycule is ay the same stage.

[–] LaughingLion@hexbear.net 6 points 1 month ago

its not my lifestyle but from the few people irl i know who do the poly thing its generally like this there is a primary couple and then like 2 or 3 people who are part of it but those people are a bit more casual it seems... i dunno

[–] RNAi@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago (1 children)

What's the point of a polycule if you all live together?

[–] CrawlMarks@hexbear.net 23 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Saves on rent and easier access to leftovers. As a polyamorous person myself there is an aspect where you appreciate being part of the destruction of the standard liberal American relationship model as well.

[–] RNAi@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (4 children)

I enjoy my family but I also enjoy being alone

[–] keepcarrot@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I enjoy being alone, but I don't enjoy it as much as the 50% of my pay cheque that would otherwise be going to rent

[–] RNAi@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago
[–] LaughingLion@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

ive been living with my wife for like 20 years i couldnt imagine not having someone in another room i couldnt have a quick adhd stim where i have to run in there and tell them the interesting (to me) thing i just heard real quick like im 5 years old

youd think 20 years of her sighing and pausing her tv show to hear me out (and not be interested in it all) would have driven her away by now but this is our routine and im not changing at this point in my life so

[–] SpiderFarmer@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Can relate. For a while I was going literal months without getting an hour (even a minute )alone at the place. Both my roommates finally held some stable work over the holidays and it was amazing.

[–] RNAi@hexbear.net 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Did you had your own room at least?

[–] SpiderFarmer@hexbear.net 5 points 1 month ago

Thankfully yes, though I can't always keep it closed because my cat gets nosy, then loses interest, then gets nosy again. I can ride the high I got from having 5 hours to myself last month, but it can be really needling to live with introverts that work part time.

Might plan out a camping trip in the spring just to get away from people.

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 41 points 1 month ago (1 children)

lGPL licensing of your intentionally buggy djikstra implementation to deflect from the fact that yes you did pick favorites

[–] CyborgMarx@hexbear.net 39 points 1 month ago (1 children)

As an aside there are alot of break up posts getting posted on Tik Tok today over the fires

[–] RNAi@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Why? People dump their partners if they don't have a house anymore?

Hmm, I wouldn't be surprised if it was that

[–] CyborgMarx@hexbear.net 27 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Alot of relationships can't handle a day's worth of stress or couples see how their counterpart behaves in emergencies for the first time and people get the ick

At least that seems to be the common pattern for the videos I've watched

[–] AOCapitulator@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago

any good ones to share?

[–] Cysioland@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 1 month ago

This was also true for corona, tons of people suddenly realizing that they can't stand each other if they're together in one place 24/7

[–] AOCapitulator@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I mean, surely you would decide the order based on location and dangerous areas right? Like? If you're the farthest one and you get picked up last that makes sense?

Doesn't seem like that was the situation for her in this case tho based on tone

[–] keepcarrot@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yeah, that was my first thought. Triage but for picking people up in the polycule

[–] ProletarianDictator@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago

No. Those with the biggest, jiggliest boobs or lowest hanging sacks get picked up first. No exceptions.