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a lot of people are undecided on pronouns or dont want to be identified as one gender or the other for security reasons. i figure some agender people might be interested in the idea too.

some trans people also dont like the idea of being pressured to state pronouns.

the main goal of having mandatory pronouns listed to each name on hexbear is so that trans people arent singled out as the only people with listed pronouns, making it harder for transphobes to target individual people. in the larger fediverse it also makes it obvious that we're all trans accepting commies which definitely makes people angry, and it is very funny.

It's the default so I think it's way overrepresented here

I am no one

coupled with it being the default as mentioned, i think some people just adopt it as another layer of opsec

Best not to worry so much about it, I think.

Out of all the posts I've made on this site, I don't think I've ever used a pronoun to reference another user. I haven't noticed anyone use a pronoun to refer to me. It will probably just never come up, especially in real life.

But yeah, if the rare situation arises, just use the name.

I think it was included to assuage concerns of forcing pronouns on users. It's easy enough to use someone's name if you don't know different. Pronouns also don't tend to come up in first person conversation, it's only when referring to someone else that it causes grammatical issues

No, it’s the default when you sign up and now you have to go back into your profile settings to change it.

IMO pronoun selection should have been included in the sign up page (and if I remember correctly, this was the case at some point before the federation?).

ive gone back and forth between he/him, and none/use name and any/any because i dont care how people refer to me. I guess that might be problematic but im not real smart and im nothing but fucking problems. I left it at he/him because it is important to others, and im trying to be mindful of others.

I confuse the opps by picking a new gender to display every time I make an account

I think it's pretty straightfoward.

it does sound stilted IRL and people are probably going to default to "they" in english anyway which is part of why i don't care enough irl even though genderless language is probably a better fit for me than "they" or some neopronoun.

I wonder this but with love/loves and maybe a few others.

Dont you dare refer to me in the third person.

Does it ever seem stilted to you when people refer to those posters? Because I haven't noticed that so it seems to me like a non-issue