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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Lussy@hexbear.net to c/chapotraphouse@hexbear.net

Oh no, my miserable life that’s devoid of any connection and anyone altogether otherwise *at least contains a friend.

What the fuck man, is this a real concern average people have that I’m way too fucking alienated to understand

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[-] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago

I've remained friends with people I was attracted to and that the other person knew I was attracted to, and those friendships have lasted for many years. It is possible. You don't speak for everyone.

[-] christiansocialist@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago

You don't speak for everyone.

I know, and I never claimed to. That's great that it worked out for you, and I'm happy. meow-hug

[-] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago

I in turn acknowledge that getting romantically rejected does hurt and that hurt is real. meow-hug

I just don't want that hurt to further worsen the dating pool and the systemic antagonism between (often cishet) men and women where the former get caught up in the "friendzone" concept and sometimes harbor rage against the latter, rage that often makes those women more likely to "friendzone" others because the alternatives can involve violence during a date that goes sour and all they're trying to do is let the guy off easy, which yes isn't really a friendship but also over times makes nonromantic friendships that much rarer between those groups.

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