And if you where Palestinian and your children where being bombed right now, would you really have a shred of fucking pity for some guy in the US saying that they have no choice but to support the guy murdering your kids right now? They don't get a difference, they don't get a fucking mitigation of suffering. They just suffer, and you have an allowance of that suffering you can accept, or at least find more acceptable than not voting.

Remember that people voted for MPs who they knew wouldn't take office all the while being brutalized and killed by British secret police and death squads in the occupied six counties. Those folks had the dignity and strength to refuse to vote for politicians who would lessen the death squads or at least said they would. They chose to very publicly throw their votes away so someone else could publicly throw their seat away in protest.

Withhold your consent, that is actionable. That does at the very least NOT contribute to making people unsafe. Otherwise you will continue to excuse and accept piles of corpses while telling yourself that the other guy would make a bigger pile. You can just not shovel more bodies on the pile for any of them. It won't change things, but it will be more meaningful than investing emotional energy in voting and thinking you have the ability to change things at the ballot.

Until you throw away this need to vote, you cannot move forward politically