Society blames the teachers, the teachers blame the parents:

Parenting now seems like keeping them alive until it’s time to register for school.

but it is capitalism, of course. Who has time to work 40 hours a week, prepare 2+ meals a day for your whole family, keep yourself and your kids and your home clean, spend time with your kids teaching them things and playing with them, budget your money, plan for the future, exercise, have a hobby, blah blah blah.

It is Not Possible to do all that without help, it just fucking isn't. The only people I know who "have it all" have childcare assistance (family, nannies) and a housekeeper, and even they are having a hard time doing everything.

I wish everyone could stop pretending that anyone does it all successfully all by themselves, but it's not in capital's interest for us to be sympathetic or cooperative.