I don't really like that the feminist stance on cis marriage is that women should keep their own surname rather than taking the man's (hexbear.net)

submitted 5 months ago by ProfessorOwl_PhD@hexbear.net to c/chapotraphouse@hexbear.net

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Why can't it be something fun like swapping surnames and then creating a portmaneau or blended name for the kids.

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[-] peeonyou@hexbear.net 9 points 5 months ago

Why not fuck the patriarchy by refusing marriage altogether? Who the hell needs the state to bind you together?

[-] zed_proclaimer@hexbear.net 18 points 5 months ago

who the hell needs the state to bind you together

Anybody who needs to pay taxes or get child tax credits

[-] peeonyou@hexbear.net 5 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

I dunno, my partner and I have always paid taxes. We've been together for 14 years and haven't had any tax issues. Child tax credit would suck to miss out on I guess, but we don't have kids so I guess that makes it easier.

Also fuck taxes.

[-] BasementParty@hexbear.net 15 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

There's a reason why gay marriage was such an important battle. Marriage is a legal contract that has numerous benefits including inheritance, right to decide care, visitation rights, and being eligible for benefits to name a few.

It's not just a " piece of paper that says we're in love." It's a huge fucking deal that offers legal protection for your partner and yourself.