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for real, jesus christ. does "I can't afford it" mean something else for other people???? I remember I had an acquaintance back when who just didn't seem to get the concept of not affording something.
"come to the thing!" sorry I'm broke, I can't afford it. "yeah okay but you could still come" bro what I literally have seventeen cents to my name "oof yeah I get it, but you could come though?" What, just fucking smooth-talk my way in without a ticket? "no man the tickets are cheap, come on, it'll be fun"
They weren't even out-of-touch-levels of rich or even all that well off. I never understood, and I never thought to ask them what they think "can't afford" means. Wild.
"I can't afford it" to someone who has never been poor just means "I would have to dip into my savings for this." they can't even imagine that for most people it means "my bank account doesn't have enough numbers in it and I would become homeless or unable to eat if I paid for this."
💡❗so when I say "I can't afford to visit you" it means to them "my savings are worth more to me than spending time with you" and their feelings are hurt!
That's a much more sympathetic angle than I was thinking of, but it would explain a lot about how this sort person can be so easily offended, it's a miscommunication.
It probably depends on the person, there definitely are people who only want to hang with others of at least the same social standing, but I have had someone whose reaction just didn't fit the pattern I had already observed with them. This way it would make sense
Yeah exactly.
Yes.
Some people have so much money laying around that they don't really have an excuse not to help people, so they put an arbitrary amount into savings so they can pretend that they don't have the money they are continually putting away. Just oh I have 1 million dollars and I put 999,999 into that one account, so I actually can't afford to buy you this hamburger right now.
Yeah I wish I could find that webcomic where the dude says to someone "why don't you get a new phone if you hate your old one" and the other person grabs a new phone, attempts to buy it and their card gets declined while giving a dumb expression at the first person because it sums up the mood
https://youtube.com/watch?v=hpQQohcHk9Q
I found a YouTube link in your comment. Here are links to the same video on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:
Apparently not as cheap as you refusing to foot the bill for the "cheap" tickets. It's all "this isn't even that expensive" until their own money is involved.
This is just the long form of, "I don't think of you as a person unless you're equally financially secure."