I've realized that formal wear is my security blanket...
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Sometimes it's nice to dress up.
I argue on the internet. Yes, including at work when I can get away with it. 
I do this too. Sometimes it ends up making me feel worse though. The key to staying happy is just disengaging once someone is peddling utter gibberish.
I like arguing online though. I think it's a great way of applying knowledge and learning the ins and outs of your argument and the critiques of your ideas that are out there. I've been doing it since I was about 11 years old and as such, when it's come to essay writing time I've found that I've always had an 'effortless' edge. It was only recently that it dawned on me - it's because I've been practicing research and rhetoric on the side about a decade now. Hardly effortless.
I have a large number of illegal emotional support knives.
Yes, I am that guy with a distressing number of knives lying around.
Not really unconventional, because it's literally made for this, but I've gotten super into a subgenre of anime called Iyashikei. It's shows and manga with almost no. Conflict, slice of life plots, and an overall vibe meant to be relaxing and chill.
Thrill as... Some girls discover the joys of camping...a group of kids walk to the candy store... A pair of lesbians in a fleshed out fantasy world have a delightfully pleasant train ride, to go on a fishing trip.
That sounds cozy. 
Great taste! Yuru Camp, Non Non Biyori, and...what's the third one? Whatever it is, it's going on my PTW list.
Thank you! The last one is Hakumei to Mikochi! It only got one season, and I feel like the manga is a bit better, but it's an Iyashikei in a unique fantasy setting, which I always really loved about it.
Neat, just downloaded it! Come to think of it, I don't think I've watched any iyashikei that are in a true fantasy setting--makes sense, since the genre lends itself to the mundane. Aria the Animation has fantastical elements, but I wouldn't go so far as to call it fantasy. And while Mushishi can be chill, it's got a liiiiitle too much body horror for me to call it iyashikei.
edit: nice profile pic btw
I’m completely sober which makes me fatigued with news so I end up doing other things
rub my face on my bf's abs
theyre hard enough that it kinda feels like a massage, but for my face
I've been retexturing a new vrchat avatar. Building a virtual fursuit essentially. Getting all the textures and clothes and props working and just right is a process. It's exactly the kind of process that I can lose myself for hours in.
Stories, movies, video games etc. about cute anthropomorphic animals
"BUT THOSE ARE FOR BABIES IF THEY ARE NOT EDGY ENOUGH AND/OR FROM GLORIOUS NIPPON" 
Whenever I remember something bad my head snaps 90 degrees left to the right and I mumble some random nonsense that makes no sense. Completely involuntary but you can't argue with results.
I think it helps the my brain reset and forget about either the incoming doom of climate change or alternatively when I mispronounced a word while giving a speech and felt embarrassed.
CW death, general sadness
It sure as hell ain't healthy, but playing RuneScape helped my through the deaths of a couple people who were very close to me (in my life for ~20 years, from childhood). It wasn't a good coping mechanism to sit in front of my computer for hours but it helped me not think about the hospital room where my best friend died.
Idk if this is weird but I'm currently going through it, whenever there's the possibility for me to feel bad my brain just shuts off emotions for a while. No sadness no happiness no energy. I guess it's like a survival mechanism to make me focused and rational in high-stakes scenarios but my brain considers experiencing a bit of anxiety to be high stakes enougj to just turn off the feelings. It's more just annoying and boring because it means that I don't enjoy anything that much.
Something will happen that would upset me, and I just go "Ah well". I can't cry anymore which bothers me also
This is really relatable. I've been trying to put my finger on what's going on with me and this is definitely part of it
I paint and work on miniatures. Create lore and background for them and play tabletop wargames. (Just getting back into it after a long break)
You can caw like several crows arguing. Good destresser when no one is around to hear. More distressing when someone asks why tf you did that.
That's a good one
Cw self harm
spoiler
I picture myself being dissected, the imagined pain from that distracts me from whatever is actually happening
Or dissociating, I've been present in my body for like less than 24 hours this year so far
collar and a tennis ball
makes me feel better
Put on some obscure DSBM and scream at the wall until I fall asleep.
there's a classic doom youtuber who does 100% runthroughs of doom maps and i like to just watch them, he's got such a relaxing voice so it kind of feels almost like watching a bob ross episode in a way (here's the channel btw)
::: spoiler spoiler also drinking
His non-runthrough videos are great as well.
Did you watch Power Pak's video on MyHouse.WAD? Longest and most fascinating Doom video I've ever seen.
I doomread about economics and think that we'll get either socialism or barbarism. (
It's gonna be barbarism.)
what is barbarism?
I go to Baale resteruant, order a turkey panini and some oatmeal raisin cookies, and comb through old marxist texts, letters, and pamphlets
think about her