I hope we all know this and are just doing it as a bit, but sometimes I do see shit on this website that makes me go “Oh y’all are genuinely just weird prudes”
The “gooner epidemic” is not real, gooning is an incredibly niche kink that very few people engage in.
“Porn addiction” is basically non existent and affects such a small portion of the population as to not be relevant. The idea that most people have in their heads about porn addiction is propaganda made up by evangelicals.
We do not live in an overly-sexually-liberated time. There is not an excess of sexual content or exposure to it.
Most of the time when people talk about “the gooner problem” what they’re actually talking about is a mix of two unrelated things, people living normal sexually liberated lives, and undersocialized young men that don’t know how to interact with people.
Sex is good. We should be having more of it. We should encourage healthy, safe sex featuring whatever kinks you and your partner(s) consent to. Don’t fall for puritan propaganda comrades.
Funny you should mention depression, because being unable to get off with another partner or not being able to get it up IS caused by depression, and especially anxiety.
Furthermore, if they're in their 20s, they're very likely not sexually experienced, so yeah, being naked with someone else is likely a pretty new thing, which can be anxiety-inducing.
And pretty much everyone now has at least some issue with anxiety because... gestures broadly at the world
(Choking and rough sex, though? Likely more complicated than that.)