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"So the decision to avoid having children may amount to a kind of performance anxiety in the face of intense expectations and weak governmental and social support". (hexbear.net)

submitted 10 months ago by Yuritopiaposadism@hexbear.net to c/chapotraphouse@hexbear.net

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tl;dr: millennials are afraid of failure.

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[-] TraschcanOfIdeology@hexbear.net 38 points 10 months ago

They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.

But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another’s throats.

Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf. Get out as early as you can,
And don’t have any kids yourself.

Phillip Larkin wrote this in 1971, so the sentiment isn't quite new. The amount of despair in the air, and the "luxury" of being able to express it and you know... Disengage is newer though

[-] queermunist@lemmy.ml 27 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I'm sure individual people had the idea for a long time but I don't think it was ever a popular idea among an entire generation.

In part this might be because millennials are the most educated generation in history - that has consequences.

[-] TraschcanOfIdeology@hexbear.net 12 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

You might be right, the fact that your folks screwed you up is much more common nowadays, or at least more mature. I think it also has to do with the system being literally unable to keep it's barest promises. Even when there was hardship before, people who did "everything right" to live comfortably and happily, and have nothing to show for it but misery and despair, haven't been the majority in the history of capitalism I think.

[-] CrimsonSage@hexbear.net 1 points 10 months ago

I think its the systematic way they fucked up. Like the 50's and 60's had huge massive social problems, but the idea that like labor builds the world and we should have collective wealth and distribution was like in the space and social democracy was sort of a thing. There was some real communism that could have, if not for terrible luck and historical contingency, really built something better. And the boomers around the world were like "yeah but what if we keep most of the bigotry and we burn down social democracy for a condo in florida?"