I think the default for transfems is "you end up looking like your mom, but goth" and i just roll with that.
oh thank god
I mean, I kind of can, but not really. I have AuDHD, and while sometimes my imagination can create pretty vivid (idk if that's the right word) imagery, and sometimes it can't do much of anything. What I will look like falls under the latter, and even my dreams seem to lack the ability. Can't speak for if it's normal or not though, I have a lot going on in my head and it's mostly messy 😅
I had aphantasia before my head injury. I couldn't picture anything.
After recovering I suddenly could.
I began my transition 8 months later.
So... idk? 🤷♀️
Brains are so strange sometimes
Its normal for me at least.
For the longest time I think I avoided looking at other people (and myself), so I barely knew what other people looked like. An extreme example is I didn't recognize a well-above average height friend I'd seen nearly daily at school for 6 years after he got a very slightly shorter haircut than usual for a while and briefly wondered why a stranger was sitting in my friend's assigned seat. So I wonder if this contributes a lot to my inability to imagine myself.
same, and im late stage 10+ years hrt. i literally cant even picture myself in clothes i have to try them on and stare at them for like 10 minutes to tell if i like the colors or not
Yeah, I also can't and I've been out for several years.
Yes.
It feels like a curse. Everyone I tell about being trans asks me questions about how I want to look and I feel stupid just being like, “I don’t know?”
If you're enby, it's harder cause there's no "standard" enby look - not even androgyny. For trans femmes, we don't get the usual 12 to 14 year old girl thing of experimenting with every look possible so it can feel overwhelming "how should I look?" Well, the only way is to do what makes you happy! Same for you, whatever your gender presentation means. Paint nails or don't, change your hair or not, wear a dress or pants or shorts - whatever makes your heart sing! Wear a binder if you don't want a chest or whatever or a packer or tuck, whatever makes you happy! The only way to know is to try stuff, maybe brows pinterest and tumblr for gender aesthetic and pick whatever piques your interest.
totally normal. it's totally fine not to have some kind of predetermined goal- the most important thing is that you're striving for a look/expression that gives you joy. by following that, i think you'll land on the way you really want to look.
Idk, I'm starting to look like a Fae spirit, which is not what I anticipated but I'm Rollin with it
Same here
i want to look like morticia addams and i'm looking like a grandma instead shit is rough
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