Men actually believe that they feel emotions more deeply and genuinely than women do. There's not a man alive who doesn't think women are beneath him.

[–] PapaEmeritusIII@hexbear.net 26 points 10 months ago (2 children)

farquaad-point Gender essentialism

[–] Angel@hexbear.net 14 points 10 months ago

Not only gender essentialist, but I get very strange cisheteronormative vibes from a sentiment like that.

[–] RBridger@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

How so? Misogyny is not inherent to being a man, but when men are surrounded by a culture that insists they're better than women by virtue of being men, they come to believe it

[–] bbnh69420@hexbear.net 14 points 10 months ago (1 children)

“Misogyny is not inherent to being a man” seems at odds with “There's not a man alive who doesn't think women are beneath him”

[–] weeen@hexbear.net 0 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Not really, if all men are surrounded by misogynistic culture

[–] bbnh69420@hexbear.net 9 points 10 months ago (2 children)

So it is inherent to being a man in society?

[–] weeen@hexbear.net 1 points 10 months ago

In our society, probably I'd be surprised if it wasn't, but we have a lot of things to change

[–] Are_Euclidding_Me@hexbear.net 19 points 10 months ago (2 children)

There's not a man alive who doesn't think women are beneath him.

Please, we can talk about how men are shitty without saying that they are literally, all of them, to a man, irredeemable. Because that's obviously not true, there are plenty of men who see women as their equals. Yes, there's "male socialization" or whatever and men are often taught to be extremely shitty, but their shittiness is not a necessary part of manhood and they can be educated out of it.

In fact, I would argue that saying stuff like this, that "there's not a man alive who doesn't think women are beneath him" actually gives men a pass to be misogynistic assholes. If part of being a man is viewing women as lesser, then we can't hold any man accountable when he views women as lesser. But we can hold them accountable for this, and furthermore, we need to if we ever want to build a better society.

[–] RBridger@lemmygrad.ml 8 points 10 months ago (1 children)

You're right. I overreacted out of frustration, but it's true that misogyny is not a necessary part of manhood, and that men can and should be educated out of it. We CAN hold them accountable, and we do need to, but I'm frustrated that it rarely happens. Most people seem to think that misogyny is not a big deal

[–] Are_Euclidding_Me@hexbear.net 5 points 10 months ago

I understand your frustration! Patriarchy is extremely shitty and misogyny is so often ignored and downplayed, it's really infuriating.

[–] GarbageShoot@hexbear.net 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

but their shittiness is not a necessary part of manhood and they can be educated out of it.

So, I think the other person's statement has problems, but I would argue that shittiness is a necessary part of manhood, and the degree that someone is a part of "manhood" is the degree that it is impossible for them to not be shitty. They can be educated out of that shittiness, but it requires educating them out of manhood. That is much of the reason that people call for the destruction of gender, because there is an inherent shittiness to it that it makes all of its members take part in.

I would say something similar about womanhood, if only because womanhood demands the existence of manhood.

[–] Are_Euclidding_Me@hexbear.net 8 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I sort of agree in that I very much would like to abolish gender, I don't think it's a super helpful framework to have so heavily embedded in society and in how humans interact with each other. On the other hand, I'm wary of equating manhood with shittiness, because there are (a) non-shitty men and (b) people who actively choose manhood. I'm simply unwilling to say that a trans man is actively choosing to be a shitty human by virtue of choosing to be a man. That doesn't seem right to me, there's something drawing trans men to manhood, and I do not believe it's as simple as wanting to be a misogynist.

[–] GarbageShoot@hexbear.net 1 points 10 months ago

there are (a) non-shitty men

If you mean not shitty on the whole, I'd agree. If you mean immaculate, I would disagree. Manhood makes people worse. There are good men, but they are good in spite of being men not because of or with no relation to their manhood.

I'm simply unwilling to say that a trans man is actively choosing to be a shitty human by virtue of choosing to be a man. That doesn't seem right to me, there's something drawing trans men to manhood, and I do not believe it's as simple as wanting to be a misogynist.

You might remember that I said that womanhood is also shitty. I don't think a trans man is choosing to be shittier, but I think they certainly aren't avoiding being shitty any more than cis people are.

[–] Comp4@hexbear.net 19 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I dont doubt that Obama has read books or listened to music but these lists are created by interns ...right ?

[–] SkingradGuard@hexbear.net 17 points 10 months ago

I'm 70% sure they are. All of these politicians have teams dedicated towards their social media presence, even the unhinged ones like MTG.

[–] WIIHAPPYFEW@hexbear.net 8 points 10 months ago

Ofc, we all know that his actual summer playlist is probably like 70% Phil Collins

[–] LaGG_3@hexbear.net 16 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

“The fact that my lists are, you know, pretty incredible, people seem to think, well, he must’ve had some 20-year-old intern who was figuring out this latest cut. No, man! It’s on my iPad right now,” he added.

obama-spike mixed with fellow-kids

Edit: quote is from this article

[–] miz@hexbear.net 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

the intern is actually 22 and Obama's the kind of shitbag who thinks that fact makes his deceptive statement morally acceptable. also the song being on the iPad doesn't mean that he listened to it, or that it wasn't placed there after the intern gave him the list

I agree with Matt that this asshole is the biggest villain of the 21st century

[–] ihaveibs@hexbear.net 14 points 10 months ago (2 children)

All of the titles just ooze overly self-serious jerk off material

[–] v_krishna@lemmy.ml 7 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

The Ministry of Time is actually a pretty light fun fiction read about time travel and British spies and such.

[–] gueybana@hexbear.net 7 points 10 months ago

I seriously doubt he reads any of this shit.

He really doesn’t strike me as a neolib true believer, I’m almost certain he spends his time reading marxist theory so he knows exactly how to be the biggest lib possible.

[–] grandepequeno@hexbear.net 5 points 10 months ago

How CIA-pilled does that book on central america gotta be?

[–] miz@hexbear.net 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Obama's real reading list has J. Sakai's Settlers on it, someone must have edited your version

[–] wtypstanaccount04@hexbear.net 2 points 10 months ago

Was Hillbilly Elegy ever on one of his reading lists?