it amounts to just rolling over and letting cisnormativity win imo. telling people they're probably trans is fine and good and should be a go-to. if they turn out to not be then there's no major harm done, at worst you've gotten someone to think a bit more about their gender which is good. if they are trans then you've saved a life from repression or worse. people are conditioned to think there's no other option than being cis, a lot of the time they need direct telling that there is. now i can imagine it's not being done with the most tact and compassion through tiktok comments. i quit tiktok last year mainly because of the dog shit takes on there about queer issues. so there's obviously a right and a wrong way to approach it but "prime directive" seems regressive to me. I don't buy into that at all.

Cisness is forced upon most trans people before they realise they’re trans and the prime directive kind of implies that that’s ok while the same in the opposite direction (telling someone they’re trans) is wrong. Nobody should really tell anyone whether they’re trans or cis but in a world where everyone is told they’re cis from the beginning it should be okay to suggest someone may actually be trans.

The whole thing feels like a way to silence trans people into sharing their experiences. If someone says something that you think screams egg due to your own experiences or experiences from someone close to you then you should absolutely be able to say that. Telling someone they’re trans while they insist they’re cis can be pretty disrespectful but that has nothing to do with the prime directive.

Idk if I voiced this right, I’m still practicing on how to communicate my view on this.

basically i would have loved for anyone to maybe just tell me that i might be trans. even just putting the idea in my head would have been nice