I really fucking hate everything sometimes because on one hand I kinda know if I went out there and acted like normal person and was polite enough and said "hey, man... it's 7:30. Why? Can't this wait until maybe 9 or 10am?" he'd probably just say sorry and sure for next time. Because a lot of people being assholes are just oblivious or not thinking at all in my experience.

But it's one of those annoyances that's so temporary, and so small yet seems so big at the moment. It feels obvious to me that a person should avoid making loud noises at 730 or 8 and I think I end up getting into a spiral of "it's not so much the individual act, it's the fact that I have to go outside and explain to another human that he's basically running a vibration, ear-fucking machine outside my window while I'm sleeping or otherwise in a "peaceful" state of the day." Like if I ever made loud noises at 730 I'd feel ashamed for the entire day. It's incredible to me that other people apparently totally lack this ability. I wonder how they'd feel on the receiving end of the annoyance, but I also have found that some people also don't care on that end of things which is wild to me. Like people who can live in apartments and have a car alarm go off daily and just ignore it. I have met these people. And I'm just like holy fuck I guess you either develop a part of your brain to fully not hear that or you end up on the news. Shit's crazy to me.

[–] Egon@hexbear.net 13 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I once sat next to a guy on a bus who was blasting music from his phone. It finally became too much and I asked him to put in some earphones maybe? I was fully expecting some psychotic reaction, but he just went "oh yeah, sure thing" and then put in earphones and I was just sitting there like "???? You had these the whole time, and you were chill about the request indicating you understand its annoying to hwar your music blasted from shitty phone speakers on a crowded bus, but you still did it???? What???" Like he was so nice about it, but just the fact I had to ask him made the act so weird. Those interactions can really get on my nerves

[–] HamManBad@hexbear.net 2 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Maybe he thought you liked the music? He was just sharing the vibes instead of keeping them all too himself

[–] Justice@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 5 months ago

I actually have started telling myself this (in my head) when someone has their car music, and the bass especially, blowing out windows at traffic lights.

"Wow, he wanted to share this sick beat with me. It sucks, but that's a nice gesture." It does work to a degree to just assume the other person is just really a nice, normal person and enthusiastically spreading music that they genuinely believe everyone else enjoys.

[–] Egon@hexbear.net 1 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

lmao I doubt it. There's some people that just blast their tunes on public transport for some reason, it's odd. But I was actually misremembering, he wasn't blasting music, he was watching tiktoks.