How do you even meet other trans people IRL? I guess there are places where they meet or whatever, but I am too afraid of everything to go to an unfamiliar place somewhere alone to meet with people I never seen before.
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i met my trans gf on Lex, some other trans friends on Bumble for Friends and have made other rl trans friends through these initial online friends.
lex got bought and is kind of shitty now but it's still, at least by me, super queer and active daily so you'll see people post local events like meetups you can attend.
I understand many of the local queer places advertise on instagram and facebook as well as you might try these platforms if you can stomach them.
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Support groups and then friends of trans friends for me.
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politics
Seeing what Trump and the Republicans are doing, and plan to do, makes me so doomer and there's nothing I can do to get out of it. They are winning. People hate us. They support these EOs. The end goal is eliminating us.
dysphoria
I love my long hair but it makes shaving my face so much worse and more frustrating. I hate every part of it. god I wish I was cis. I never want to deal with this again. Horrible, horrible stuff.
spoiler
It's one of the reasons the grey market and DIY in general is so important for our resilience as a community. They can declare whatever they want to be illegal, we can get our hormones regardless. It isn't easy and it sucks but we can survive.
Cis women sometimes have facial hair, number one customers of laser hair removal and electrolysis is cis women (which is why it's such a pain in the ass for me to find someone to do my fucking shit!!). You'd be surprised how many have the same complaints you do lol
Dysphoria
Fwiw the hair will stop getting in the way while shaving when it gets longer and you can put it behind your ears. Probably just needs a few months. You're just in the awkward period rn where the hair is long but not long enough to be usable for anything yet. Once you're past it you won't need to deal with it again.
I'm pretty sure the only semi-coherent thought I've had today is "Titania from Fire Emblem: Radiant Dawn transed me," and it's just kinda been floating around in my head all day refusing to leave.
Wtf based????????
been posting on xhs so much i keep going to translate my posts here into mandarin before remembering it isn't necessary π ε¦οΌ
someone help me understand why people give a shit about the met gala. it's a party i'm not invited to, why should i care?
Just finished changing my driverβs license. With little fanfare and much relief, all the state documents that I can change are done. 
Weβll see if my passport actually gets processed, and my state doesnβt allow sex marker changes, but thatβs a fight for another day. So happy to have finally earned the F on all my documents.
Death to Amerikkka and all its vassals.
God's Sleepiest Princess has transformed into God's Most Caffeinated Queen.
mmmmm
long hair feel nice :)
every day my hair is longer than it has ever been and yet it is still too short 
i need me a witchy hair grow spell
getting your biotin and folic acid and all? A hedge witch formulation might look like a spinach salad with sweet potato, nuts, berries, tofu and avocado...
i had no idea about any of that but i will be using this as an excuse to devour more avo
great for the scalp and hair. healthy fats and vitamin e and b will give you a shiny coat!
Weekly depression/anxiety post/cry for help incoming: (possible CW: stomach problems)
Im still in the closet and living at home. I went to peer counseling one day last week and couldnt open up as much as I could when I went in October (I was more optimistic in October and now im completely hopeless, the place temporarily closed the week after and I could only do phonecalls between the two times). They recommended a few therapists I still havent called. Im in a near constant state of panic. I used to be able to chalk up my inability to go through with transitioning to my extreme anxiety, a male sexuality (when i imagine emotional βmaking loveβ sex im a female that gets held but then i get a boner and it all goes male) and concerns about wiping due to IBS and hemorrhoids. I wasnt happy but I was accepting. Then I Saw the TV Glow came out and idk im also a failed filmmaker and not only was the movie about my life, it also completely nailed the mood/setting/atmosphere of movies I wanted to make (my movies were silly genre fare tho). My friends even noticed how eerily similar it was and even in trailers it looked that way. I saw it in theaters five times. I uber for work and thats all Ive been doing for work for seven years. My parents are Liberals who would have hot n cold acceptance of me that ultimately went cold when I was younger and more able to tackle all this. My mom has apologized since (and my dad indicated he may be closeted himself which makes it way worse actually) but idk they did things like when I failed two classes freshman year of college they had an intervention telling me theyd be accepting (I wasnt ready I was a virgin and unfortunately didnt realize im trans until I was 14 and the only stereotype of trans people available in the late 2000s/early 2010s was βknew since I was 5β) but the next year I was ready and they threatened to kick me out. They would also always tell me I was doing it wrong and that people who transitioned in their 60s/70s were doing it right. It took Caitlyn Jenner media blitz for them to get accepting. I need to move out and estrange myself, Ive been open about this and theyre supportive/graceful about it. (Honestly it may be differing political views that motivates my decision a lot more, it feels like they never took my autism/anxiety seriously either and I just dont fit in with my family). Ive tried to apply to the post office but I sent in one application a few months ago and didnt notice a further quiz/assessment they sent me. Ive sent in another application but Im worried that not doing the second quiz/assessment blacklisted me. If I really lock in I can make $1050-1300 ubering 40ish hours a week. Theres always the constant risk of car accidents though. I dont know how I should go about getting my own place.
Lately theres so many horror posts I see about new ways they find to fuck with us and Im in a constant state of panic. I just dont know what to do. People acted like the sky was falling during first Trump admin and that genocide was at our door any second. It scared me last time even though if I genuinely just tuned it out/pretended it didnt exist I wouldve been ok. It doesnt seem like thats the case this time. Im still 100% pre everything and I honestly need a much more robust irl support network. I just dont know what to do. Should I just stay in the closet even though Im really sad because its too dangerous? And if I do, how do I cope? What drugs should I take to tune it out? Im always sleepy so I need stims (been taking Adderall nearly every day for the past few years by buying it off a friend) I also really dont want to live as long as normal life expectancy probably even with transition. Im almost 34 now. Tbh 40 sounds like enough life.
Are you able to see a psychiatrist to help with your anxiety? They should be able to prescribe you medication for it- which it sounds like you need. A GP might be able to give you prozac or something similar to start the process too. I got my first med from a GP while I waited for a psychiatrist. Taking a break from Adderall might be a good idea too, I've heard stims can increase anxiety. I'm not very familiar with them though.
I'm also at home, closeted, and scared 
I can see a psychiatrist I recently got health insurance through the state. They also recommended psychiatrists with the therapists I was supposed to call.
I was told Three Houses was a wonderfully queer game but there's only like 3 M/M options and none of them really appeal to me 
I was told Three Houses was a wonderfully queer game
Hilarious someone would say this considering all the people up in arms about Claude being heterosexual when the game came out.
I played though both Crimson Flower, Silver Snow, and a portion of Golden Deer thinking Claude was bi before realizing that he was not 
Edit: I lied, I think it took longer
It's me, I'm one of the people up in arms
purposefully putting the Greek Yoghurt lid on a Turkish Yoghurt jar. If an international incident happens you know who to blame.
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