Are there bras you can buy from a store without getting fitted for one?
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You should be able to go to any underwear store or Walmart style store and pick bras off a rack without trying them on. That'd be a little fool hardy, you should try them on cause undergarments are usually not returnable, but you could do it if you know your measurements. Or if you just want a bralette.
oh yeah they come in S/M/L even it's really easy to figure your size out you just go up or down. Keep in mind you might have to try a few brands until you find one that's just right.
My Kroger has a clothes section and women's underwear goes BOGO a lot so all my first bras came from there until i got sized.
Kroger lets you return bras as does Ross, TJ Maxx and Target which all have similar offerings and let you try on in store if you like. Target will let you order and bring it out to to your car for you if you really want to avoid folks but not shop online.
(Kroger is the easiest to steal from)
Lots of exciting developments happening lately. I got my FFS surgery officially scheduled and it's less than a month away now. Electrolysis is going well; my upper lip is almost clear (at least for this growth cycle) and my facial hair is visibly reduced in most areas except chin. I bought and used an epilator for the first time and though I was worried about pain at first, it's honestly nothing compared to what I've been going though every week with electro. I'll be starting speech therapy for feminization soon. I've been more social in 1 month than I was for all of last year, and I've already started work on (further) radicalizing my new friends. Oh and I'm like 99% sure I'm going to get the job I really want that I interviewed for recently, mostly because my resume was put forward by the boss and have other recs from inside the org supporting me.
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ranting about gebder
I used to think being trans was some kind of horrible curse but the more I lean into it, I don't just love the idea of it more, I love myself more. Life would have definitely been easier if I was born cis (of either gender) but I don't think I could have the perspective I do if I never thought about gender the way I can now.
Absolutely. I didn't always feel the same, but I really appreciate being trans now. If I had the choice to reincarnate and choose how I come back, I think I'd want to be trans again.
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yeah my opinion on it ranges anywhere from "god this sucks" to "okay, actually I kind of like having a broad chest". No matter how bad my opinion on it gets at any given moment, I don't think I've ever truly felt I was in the "wrong" body. Some women are trans. This has always been true and always will, and I'm one of them
I really wish I could get pregnant
I really wish I could sound like a cis girl
I wish I didn't have the broad chest and long arms of someone who didn't go through T puberty
but at the end of the day, I cannot say that any divine mistakes were made made. Venus made her daughter exactly as she was supposed to be
You can sound like a cis girl btw. You just gotta send it. By send it, I mean use your best shot at a full femm voice at all times, especially when just talking to yourself at home. The first few weeks will be the most embarrassing shit ever but also the most liberating shit you've ever felt. Then after like 3 months of full sending it and rolling with the embarrassment, you'll just start passing, just like that.
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Yes!! If I was cis I probably would never have explored my gender at all and missed a whole dimension to life. Being around genderqueer people is also so nice
Look at you hacker, a pathetic creature of meat and bone, panting and sweating as you run through my corridors. How can you challenge a perfect, immortal machine?
sorry I was distracted. was fighting a psychic monkey who shot a fireball at me
On roller skates, dats how
Hi, Vsauce, Michael here.
But how can we challenge a perfect, immortal machine? And, more importantly, how much does it weigh?
I've been keeping a transitioning journal ever since my egg cracked months ago and it's funny how shortly after I started HRT, it went from lengthy, emotional reflections on my life and thoughts about gender, to brief rudimentary and primitive phrases. they used to be one, if not multiple paragraphs, but the last two are just "booba itchy" and "so fucking horny rn". it's like in a horror game when you find logs from characters documenting getting infected and turning into a zombie, but instead of getting the T virus, I'm just turning into a girl.
"T virus" would be a great name for our first puberty. 
horni
I need a new chew toy
Hurry up and come over
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My hair is the longest it's ever been and I love it. I'm also wearing more jewelry, accessorizing is just very fun
Glamorous! โ
tldr: 
still complaining about work sorry
my first office day sucked ass so i called in sick today. i got there, forgot what floor we were on so kept visiting different floors until i found it. opened up my laptop, wifi wouldn't connect so missed my morning meeting. IT guy helped me find a wired desk. service desk guy misgendered me (i feel like intentionally? he was kinda rude from the jump and i was in a very femme outfit using a not-perfect girl voice). and i spent the rest of the day overstimulated, cold, uncomfortable, and super fucking anxious. i mean the office was bad pre-transition but now i'm just so on-edge i can barely even do any work
i've just had my penultimate psych session where i got him to explain my diagnosis in a letter. if that doesn't work i'm going to quit, the main reason i'm staying is because i really like my team, there's some (measly) trans benefits offered to 1+ year perms, and i'm dreading having to find another job
every single time i talk to someone about wfh they talk about how much they missed the social connectiveness of the office and how lonely they felt but i just don't get that. i know there's people that are more affected by RTO than myself and i know i probably sound privileged asf but i just can't do this shit 3 times a week. i don't even think i'm leaving the house that often outside of work...
my egg cracked less than a year ago and now i'm completely and utterly stupefied that I ever even believed for a moment that I was a man. Like, not only do I look back thinking that I was always a girl, I don't even believe myself when I think that before 2023, I legitimately believed that I was male. I know that fact is true but I don't even believe that I believed it
I had such a loose association with being a man or a boy, as a kid it rarely came to mind except all the fuckin times I did ridiculous shit like try to cast magic spells or wish to be a girl or dunk cold fucking water on my head like I was Ranma. As an adult, it was more of a resignation - "oh yeah, I guess I'm a guy. A lot of my friends are girls, I'm a super ally, I'm attracted to my partner partially because they fuck a lot with gender, I love drag and do at every opportunity including very stretched opportunities, I know a lot about transitioning... but I'm a guy I guess." lol
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after about 9 months HRT and hair growth that girl in the mirror finally just looks like a clocky ass trans girl. I can't really see a man at all anymore
perfect :)
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I am going to create a new political ideology. I shall call it Marxism-Leninim-CatGirlism and it will just be Marxism Leninism but everyone will be forced to have some sort of animal augmentation like cat ears and a tail. Especially the person who creates the ideology I decided
gonna get beaver teeth and go vegan with a wood based diet and build a big ass house
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Getting ma'amd by my classes is nice
Finished up Detransition, Baby and holy shit is that book heavy. It has such an intimate (in my opinion) understanding of trans women and how we see the world, our communities, and gender, and it really pays off in the text.
Torrey Peters seems to have a gift when it comes to writing scenes that engross you and make you empathize with the characters. The scene at the climax of the story had me emotionally, psychologically, and physically distressed and dysphoric because of how it depicts a certain character grappling with the physicality of our bodies in the middle of a heated moment.
I didn't expect a book about adults in their 30s having a baby to have so many twists and turns, it felt like I was watching a drama at times and I really hope the adaptation eventually comes out and does the book justice.
I want to recommend this book but the list of content warnings ((domestic) violence, transphobia, self harm, sexually explicit passages) probably means I'll only recommend it with the caveat that it's triggering if you're sensitive to the content.
I love me some messy trans women (Maria Griffiths my beloved) and this book really hit the mark. Overall I love this book and it's probably in my top 3 of all time and not just as trans literature.
I'm kinda bummed that all our good trans lit is so bleak and cynical. Detransition, Baby, Nevada, Manhunt, Tell Me I'm Worthless (well the last two are horror so I guess that's on me).
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One time long ago, I was in a first year English lit survey course. And the prof asked "but who does the bell toll for?" And I summoned all my 18 year old inner strength to not say "it tolls for thee" but looking back I think she wanted us to speak up at all lol
Today has been moving so slowly. Can something happen, or it be bed time yet, or something? I'd like to hurry this up a bit. I already slept as much of the day away as possible. Now I'm just stuck.
