vent/suffering/bad eating
So much pain. I'm so hungry right now. I haven't eaten in a day and a half. I'm starting to cry. If/when I eat something the pain is going to get worse.
Why am I such a failure. Broken. A waste.
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vent/suffering/bad eating
So much pain. I'm so hungry right now. I haven't eaten in a day and a half. I'm starting to cry. If/when I eat something the pain is going to get worse.
Why am I such a failure. Broken. A waste.
I was absent for a few weeks. Sure glad decades didn't happen in the meantime
OH MY GOSH I almost forgot to mention some progress I made today. I was trying to set up Bluetooth in the car, and it always repeats certain phrases back at me. I dread it for this exact reason, and I've avoided setting it up until now with that being one of many reasons. However, it had to happen, so I went to do it and put on my best fem voice. Imagine my shock when it spits my voice back out at me, and it sounds like a mature woman! I don't even know how I did it, and I don't want to listen to it again in case it ruins what might be magic, but in that moment I felt such intense euphoria. I then enjoyed the convenience of having my music on Bluetooth while no longer having to deal with my static-ridden aux cable.
Getting some routine blood work done, and I asked the doctor to check my T levels.
He asked if I'm "having problems in the male department"
Why, yes, doctor, you might say I am
So they're failing at making me feel bad about gender but I still feel icky because its literally just so fucking overtly trans coded sexual harassment
I need to find a social space to use for dating but ugh, I've gotten so picky, except the folks whove made me picky are comrades and I don't date comrades! Ugh! I have a partner but sometimes there are aches that are outside their wheelhouse.
Does anyone else get a really weird mix of dysphoria and euphoria while looking at Chappell Roan in drag? I'm trying to sort out my feelings there but getting swamped by "pretty gender-non-conforming lesbian ahhhh" when I try to.
The latter is a vent, the former is talking about ~~fucking~~ pronouns
transphobia
Everytime I see "he or she" it tickles me, in a bad way. Why was this popularized, or used at all, when "they" is not only a better catch-all when gender and/or pronouns are unknown, AND "they" makes the sentence more fluid and feels more grammatically correct? I don't know if the cis are alright...
ableism, slurs mentioned
Well, the radlib co-worker strikes again. Always get a bad feeling about him whenever he talks about certain things. It's like, he's ALMOST there, but has to ruin it with some sort of lib garbage. Or, even better, some GAMER WORDS just to spice things up, ya know? Just casually drop the r-slur, it was totally necessary to make your point known.
Like, as a queer person, why are you using ableist slurs when many queer people are neurodivergent? Why are you even using slurs in the first place when it's something you've probably been on the receiving end of? Long story short, shouldn't have expected anything less from a radlib, but these kind of things just piss me off. Why do people insist on language that has been used to hurt others (AND ME) when it's so easy NOT TO?
Haven't painted my nails in a bit and for the best, got an interview tomorrow and I gotta look not too hot to intimidate the interviewers. I'll give it a month if I get in to secure my position before I get back to it, maybe finally get some high end nail polish and not the dollar store stuff I find.
ventpost
we're stuck in a shitty depressing cycle, in a lot of pain and alone so we lash out if poked > lashing out causes guilt at causing hurt > guilt prompts a desire to hide due to feeling like creatures will never forgive us (and sometimes they genuinely dont which feeds into the feeling like nobody ever will as soon as even one slip up happens) > isolation cranks up the hurt and loneliness more, repeat
we dont feel safe, we never feel safe, we never have, maybe we never will. that causes us to hurt those we care about, and it sucks.
yes our first post on the new megathread is a ventpost :3
after three months my insurance finally gets back to me to say "we're not paying for your therapist lmao" i am going to scream
im playing animal crossing new horizons again
Medical gatekeeping, but I'm continuing to make progress
My surgeon is really trying to get a third letter in support of surgery because he's clearly nervous that this is new to him and tbf majority of other surgeons. I have a current therapist that I'm asking him to talk to as the third person, but he shouldn't need more than two letters.
I'm trying very hard to stay understanding of everyone else's anxiety regarding my situation, but sometimes I just want to scream at them.
"What do you really want from your body?"
A positive (nsfw) story
I hope this isn't oversharing, but I saw my girlfriend for the first time recently and it went so well.
Every time it was my turn to top, I kept using the same dildo that was pretty much the exact size I wanted from surgery (and was before surgery too). When I told her I liked that one cause it felt validating, she said she bought it because it seemed like exactly what I described to her. I could have cried haha. She never told me she was doing that, she just wanted to be as supportive as possible
Interpersonal relationships are not helping me whatsoever so I've decided I'm simply going to stop being lame and simply become good.
did not know about the trans Linux fox girl, ty for making my day better
intrusive thoughts
Sometimes I think about using urinals in the men's room and fighting anyone who gives me shit for it. It's so much faster, I don't have to touch anything besides myself, and I think standing empties me out better.
But gawd it would cause so many fucking problems lol
another serious storm expected, and we're usually cut off for a few days to weeks when this happens. managed to go down for supplies, food, gasoline in case we lose power again, pick up medication, take medication in order to have vaguely functioning body, and make preparations for the storm. would have liked to be able to fix the roof leaks before the storm but unfortunately that was beyond my capabilities. but i got a whole bunch of dry wood before it all gets rained on so we should be able to stay warm and dryish.
was a p successful day, especially considering how hard everything has been recently. am proud of myself. and resting by the fire and keeping warm :3
Donβt let British people convince you they are smarter than Americans, they may be worse
Good morning TO YOU
sad :(
My brain is so mean to me Just a constant stream of negativity towards myself. Nothing is ever good enough
A friend of mine, who I dated briefly, keeps staying up late but being bossy/dommy and telling her to go to bed apparently is the secret key to her heart - and I'd rather not tread back over that same trail. But I still think she should SLEEP
under socialism all trans people will be provided up to 5 melee weapons and a wall mount for them, paid for by the state
More dream posting:
I had a dream that I came out to my mom, and she reacted very positively. She asked me to dress up and go see a musical with her. I didn't have the heart to tell her that musicals are really more gay coded, but she was trying to be supportive lol.
Anyway, we went because she likes musicals even though I hate them haha
This is a stark contrast to last week's dream where she was super transphobic. A welcome change.
speaking of lewd
bedroom stuff update
so uh sex is a thing now i guess? like often in a way where i suddenly feel 10 years younger. been able to do a lot of work & make a lot of progress with my issues regarding sex & am genuinely v proud
anyway yeah a certain someone got a rough awakening just before dawn
Next year will be the year of the Linux desktop, just you wait! :smuglord:
Gonna try linux desktop again. Is there a preferred distro among people who contribute to the kernel? Not that I likely will, I just want to flatter myself lol
I had quite the fun and exhausting night last night, right here on Hexbear.net all thanks to Bureaucrat. I really love this bit.