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The Rust Lang Ecosystem — Trans Megathread for the week of December 16, 2024, to December 22, 2024 (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 3 days ago by Ciel@lemmygrad.ml to c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net

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A language empowering everyone to build reliable and efficient software.

from rust-lang.org

Rust by itself is a great language, but what really makes it shine are its many great crates. The ecosystem around rust is one of the best there is, and its documentation is practically unrivalled. So lets look at some of those crates!

actix-web

Actix-web is an amazing web server framework for rust. It's modular, easy to use, intuitive and fast. It's also what lemmy is built on! So when you use this very site, you are using something build with actix!

Bevy

Bevy is a code first game engine for rust, based on the ECS paradigm. It's incredibly refreshing and different from most other engines. It is also unbelievably modular, in fact, just about every part of the engine cam be removed or added as you please! If you are every looking for something simple to play around, try bevy!

Tokio

The backbone of most asynchronous rust. It provides everything needed to build reliable, fast web applications!

Serde

Serde is the go-to library for serialization and deserialisation in rust. Its derive macros make it a breeze to use, and there are countless crates supporting various formats with Serde!

SQLx

SQLx is an amazingly simple sql handling crate. It is both feature rich and yet simple, and just a joy to use!

Reqwest

A neat little crate for sending http(s) requests! It's also used in Lemmy, and just about anywhere else where someone needs to do get some thing from an http(s) endpoint!

And this is far from all! Rust is a lovely language, with an even more amazing ecosystem!

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[–] Bearlifter@hexbear.net 15 points 2 days ago

I don't want to doxx myself too much but when I went to go change my name on my CRBA (consular report of birth abroad, it's my birth certificate) I didn't realize that there was a listing for sex on it too- so now I have to get that changed even though all my other ID paperwork has the right gender marker and name on them. :(

I'm stuck in Texas, would anybody happen to know how difficult it is nowadays to just like... Get that changed real quickly? I just need the proof that my gender marker has been corrected so I can get that one damn document fixed.

[–] Ambii@hexbear.net 13 points 2 days ago (5 children)

Idk where all the new comrades on the site are coming from but I'm excited about it

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[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 18 points 2 days ago

a kiddo brought me their cup, seemingly very clean, and they started telling me about how they drank milk out of it and cleaned it up after and i had to ruin their day by informing that i still needed to wash it catgirl-cry

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 17 points 2 days ago (6 children)

late night anxiety posting

Ah, if only there was reliable feedback you could use to gauge how a social thing is going... Loprazolam I miss you...

I know that's way too literal and maybe gamified a way to look at talking to people, like it's not a system with rules, not really, even though neurotypicals say it is. But while I've been pretty content just going at it and yapping with people, there are definitely times where a thing happens and I desperately wish I could tell if it's the result of me being a huge fuckup or not.

Sometimes you just get left with nothing to go on, which is awkward and also leaves me wide awake at 7am combing over the same couple of conversations repeatedly trying to figure out if I did something stupid, which is extremely nerve wrecking seriously stop please.

Has anyone figured out how to git gud at not having anxious breakdowns like this, without needing to be medicated or whatever?

[–] Wendy_Pleakley@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago (2 children)

not sure if this is anything but could help

I have been nervous about social situations for a while for the exact reason you said: I never know how it's going. I am kinda always second guessing myself and what I find is that my mind is just spitting these sort of anxious thoughts out really quickly. So for me there is value in forcing my brain to slow down, sometimes it's me distracting myself and sometimes it's me sitting still trying to just observe the nasty thoughts. When they're slower, I recognize what for me is essentially a script of self-hatred. Not really any organic or in-the-moment thoughts.

So, I tell myself that I'm not good but I don't even really believe that when I beat myself up. And it's the same kind of thing with mistakes. I literally keep thinking about dumb shit from 2019, and even though I have the insight to reflect, I am still trapped in wondering if I did something stupid. There's this recognition more and more that my brain is using this like a chew toy, I'm making myself anxious for fun!

I am often caught in a literal way of relating to people! I'm currently trying to talk myself out of there being a "right number of times" to reach out during a week or "does this warrant texting someone". Because I'm so caught up on these things that I just don't text. I want to be better connected, and that desire is starting to outgrow my fear of saying something stupid.

Again, not sure if this is anything, but I relate very much to your comment

[–] rtstragedy@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago (2 children)

A+ comment, I completely relate to this. I think there's a grain of truth to this:

my brain is using this like a chew toy, I'm making myself anxious for fun!

for me too, but my current theory is that being miserable is the easiest thing in the world. I want more than that, though, so I fight.

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago (12 children)

oh waow

my brain is using this like a chew toy, I'm making myself anxious for fun!

Why would the brain do this, it causes us distress so surely we should not?

But for me, at this point I get more anxious about ambiguity than anything else. There are situations where it's like, if I could even tell clear-cut whether it was my fault, I could deal with it better. I tend to get huge spikes of anxiety when there's no sensory input, socially, like I don't get any feedback...

currently trying to talk myself out of there being a "right number of times" to reach out during a week or "does this warrant texting someone". Because I'm so caught up on these things that I just don't text. I want to be better connected, and that desire is starting to outgrow my fear of saying something stupid.

This is awesome, love to see it. There is no "right number of times" for anything social related! Message people, cause problems ✨ For me it is also hard because, uh I genuinely annoy people a lot of the time, literally I talk too much. That might sound like an eyerolling anxiety self hate thing, but I talk at extreme lengths to the point people have just quit in the past. So Idk, I just wish I could go to bed without my brain wondering if I've fucked up, not sure...

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[–] Beetle@hexbear.net 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I smoke weed, lie awake and distract myself knowing that tomorrow the anxiety will probably be a bit less bad. I wish I knew of any better remedies

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Sorry I still haven't been to the weedstore since we last spoke yea been busy but I try to keep that in mind

[–] Beetle@hexbear.net 10 points 2 days ago

Lol I had forgotten about that conversation. I can still recommend it

[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Disidentifying from my thoughts has helped. It leaves me wanting something to identify with and finding nothing, but I’ll be fine. There is a mechanism that keeps catching RSD in the act and disengaging.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 8 points 2 days ago (3 children)

How do I do this pls =)

[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Btw this is mindfulness but whole-er. I extrapolate from my experience and what I’ve heard that other autists would see through the absurd contradiction in the mainstream suggestion that some thoughts belong to the self and others do not.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I have seen your other posts and I'm not sure I fully grasp what I'm reading, other than the obvious. Also if you brought me orange book posting I would probably bully orange book, that is my new bit...

[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

That’s alright and understandable. I should not expect anything to be the same. I think I am going to stop trying to drag people onto the path to ultimate reality who are not perpetually befuddled by existence. Still, I must recommend mindfulness and meditation. You can do the other practices without fully understanding it, but honestly just note sensations and watch them pass.

spoiler

Currently being mindful of my RSD at this sensical event and y’know? It’s not too bad.

[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago

I will interest trade you reading Nevada for practicing insight.

[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Insight practices

https://www.mctb.org/ https://youtu.be/GYAremovedgbbM (I pirated this guy’s book on Anna’s archive) I also listened to a lot of Revolutionary Left Radio on Buddhism. I have read way to much about Buddhism but honestly it’s not necessary. I took “thoughts aren’t you” seriously first when Breht explained his OCD. I turned it into an OCD thing crushing every thought that implied it was me due to black and white thinking. Now I can see through that mechanism as also not me and my relationship to thoughts is better.

Essentially pay attention in daily life to the three characteristics of all things: impermanence, non-self, and suffering. Pay attention to bare sensations stripped of ideas imposed upon them (though those can also be analyzed with the senses). Pay attention to that which appears to be “you” conscious that it can’t be you because it is temporary and you cannot see yourself temporarily.

Also gotta recommend daily vipassana and nothing/open awareness meditation.

There are some risks which are mentioned in the sources but if you’re like me you have more to gain than lose. There is a “safer” slower route going concentration first, but with ADHD insight first is probably better (sense/attention sensitivity is a bonus tbh). If you awaken the after glow can help you actually learn the concentration stuff, which is cool.

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[–] ComradeMonotreme@hexbear.net 17 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Thought I was a boy-wife, but maybe I'm a girl-husband instead?

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 11 points 2 days ago

speech-r ranmao

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[–] Eve_Rising@hexbear.net 18 points 2 days ago

I'm getting my orchi on Jan. 10 and am starting the process of getting top surgery. Not sure I'll be able to get top surgery before they ban gov coverage of GAC but at least I got the process started. If they do, I'll get it done privately and raise the money the old fashioned way, a combination of getting on my knees and also mutual aid

[–] ComradeMonotreme@hexbear.net 14 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (4 children)

Fallout Tactics has a minor character Paladin Solo, her first name is Emerald, she is referred to with feminine pronouns and her voice actor is a cis man.

https://fallout.fandom.com/wiki/Emerald_Solo

It's 2001 and I don't know if it was meant to be something intentional about Power Armor, a budget constraint or an error, or some one snuck it in for positive or negative purposes.

But she/her, no voice training and a full suit of power armour is gender AF and rules.

[–] Bureaucrat@hexbear.net 8 points 2 days ago

indie wiki, fandom has way too much garbage esp on mobile
https://fallout.wiki/wiki/Paladin_Emerald_Solo

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[–] bolshevikLovelace@hexbear.net 13 points 2 days ago (11 children)

had a migraine yesterday so trying not to look at shit, decided to finally read (listen to) Nevada. and damn it was so fucking good, thanks for yapping about it @ashinadash@hexbear.net stalin-heart

my spoilery thoughts

i was initially a bit shocked by the ending but i let the afterward play and was satisfied with the reasoning. i do really like the representations of "pre" and "post" transition thing. Maria kind of awestruck me for the first half before i realised how much closer i was to James' end of that particular part of the journey. but dear god, i hope that one day i can feel as comfortable in my gender as Maria does

also i really liked the traffic light analogy, which made the fact it was stolen even funnier

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[–] bolshevikLovelace@hexbear.net 19 points 2 days ago

this thread is reminding me of how badly i've wanted to learn rust for years (shaking my fist at uni-aged self who had way too much free time). i got too many hobbies and my job is programming. i just don't have the spoons oooaaaaaaauhhh

[–] nightshade@hexbear.net 17 points 2 days ago (1 children)

The two muscular arms meme with Ferris the Rust mascot on one side and Ferris the anime catgirl on the other side, and in the center it says "Being trans cultural icons"

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[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 15 points 2 days ago

It's been a good day in gender for me, folks. I'm upping my estradiol and spiro doses and got a referral for a tracheal shave.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 16 points 2 days ago* (last edited 1 hour ago) (2 children)

Why do I already need to shave my arms again kitty-cri-potato and shower... and shave the rest of me... catgirl-flop

[–] MoonElf@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

this is why I epilate it lasts a few days longer and grows back softer which buys me a few more days. i'm so lazy

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago

I really should get an epilator

[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 8 points 2 days ago

mood

[–] Siobhan@hexbear.net 29 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Loving this site. Got misgendered on a comment and hot damn if someone didn't show up point two seconds later to correct them . Think I have a new hero

[–] Hestia@hexbear.net 13 points 2 days ago

If we didn't take care of our trans comrades we wouldn't really have a site. We are the majority here.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 28 points 3 days ago

Fastest mods in the west brace-cowboy

[–] MoonElf@hexbear.net 23 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

went and took a concealed carry class yesterday and was apprehensive because i dressed full femme. It was hosted at a local pistol range. It ended up being lovely. The instructor was extra friendly to me (I sat in the front row). A cute little queer person (Pretty sure) was there and complimented my earrings. I love my town. I love being a woman!

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