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[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 8 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (4 children)

spoilerStill upset. Was talking with someone about diy and like- even if it is actually none of my families business they'll still probably at very least be hurt if they find out that way. They might feel like I was "going behind their back" or being "underhanded" (seriously we have to start gayroller-2000 cissies). And like, they're right, that is how they'll feel. I don't really have any hope of moving out in the next year either. Obviously I could start, wait a few months, and then come out and tell them what I am doing but idk. I hate it. I don't want to come out. They won't see me as my gender, its going to be so awkward, genuinely just horrible. Its not even just me at the house either. Cried. idk what to do.
spoiler major bad idea/cognitohazard So chat gippity released a new model semi recently with image gen- I don't understand the technical details well enough to explain them here but it sounds really neat. Anyway I obviously told it to feminize me and change a few things (just hair and glasses) and isaac-cry holy fuck I'd be so happy if I looked like that. Its not realistic, at very least it shrank my nose, but damn. What could have been...
dysphoria, I brief siinstead of looking like that- like a woman- I look disgusting. Actually revolting. I literally have to figure/get my shit together regarding a couple self care things because that picture (the original) makes me want to kms. Imagine other people seeing me like that, imagine asking to be called a woman looking like that.
But I have been feeling less depressed lately, still just this type of stuff...

[โ€“] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 7 points 5 days ago (1 children)

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spoilerMake up, like contouring can do some pretty major work! You'd be surprised how much you can morph how your face looks with full face. Also your face will change with HRT, it's takes its sweet time and it feels subtle for years but how I look now vs 4 years ago is a pretty big difference. Like, my lips look different. It's a whole thing.

They almost certainly won't notice changes from your hrt for at least a year, maybe longer. It's sad but there are girls who do hrt for years and their spouse doesn't notice ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ I knew my mom would be accepting but coming out was still very hard. It's never really easy and not scary, I wish it was. Every once in a while, we'll get a trans kid at work and some of their parents might be pretty conservative and rural but they love their kid - so they might not get what being trans is, but they love their kid and don't want them to hurt. It's not always a story where there's a lot of pain and abuse and abandonment - that can happen, which is part of what makes it scary, but it's not the only one.

FaceApp was one of the things that broke my egg lol. I was looking through old pictures, trying to clear out pics of my ex, and I found my faceapp pics from like 2018 (oh yes I was a very cis guy who just loved how looking like a girl made me feel ๐Ÿ™„). I actually dont look that far off from it now! There's some stuff I would need facial feminization surgery to get, but it'd be more subtle. You'll be surprised, eggnog. Stay alive โ™ก

spoilerI just don't want to get my hopes up from some ai bullshit. And yea I'm sure makeup etc helps, haven't tried yet. I know hrt will actually do stuff, I don't seek out timelines or anything but I've still seen the big changes in people who are, yea 3-4+ years in.

It's sad but there are girls who do hrt for years and their spouse doesn't notice

Okay that is pretty awful :/ yea I know its always scary- idk I have just been thinking a lot about (especially my dad's) other beliefs and shit and I just don't know if I can. I feel sick and I hate this. And I have no idea how I am going to be able to leave.

Actually didn't realize faceapp was that old, huh. I remember that feeling too, imagining... Hopefully I am kitty-cri Thank you, I will/am <3

[โ€“] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 6 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 6 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[โ€“] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 6 points 6 days ago (1 children)

You're welcome but I'm sorry I don't really know what to say. Imo, any kid's gender or orientation shouldn't be a parent's business outside of supporting them but I hope they come around and end up being cool

I just appreciate all my replies and try to show that. Yea it definitely isn't and they should get bent tbh. I hope so too. But I really doubt it.

[โ€“] 0x2640@hexbear.net 4 points 5 days ago

*hugggggggies*