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[โ€“] TheVelvetGentleman@hexbear.net 21 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Or their name? Pretty easy not to misgender someone if you just use their name.

[โ€“] Xx_Aru_xX@hexbear.net 23 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

What if they have a gender neutral name, or a name in a language not yours, this is still assuming the gender based on the name

[โ€“] ikilledtheradiostar@hexbear.net 22 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

No just use name instead of pronoun

So "she's the worst" becomes "Gary's the worst"

[โ€“] Diuretic_Materialism@hexbear.net 23 points 1 year ago (3 children)

That's gonna make certain conversations in the English language unwieldily as fuck

[โ€“] ikilledtheradiostar@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

You can use other names than Gary.

[โ€“] Diuretic_Materialism@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Gary should become a gender neutral pronoun.

[โ€“] D61@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The key word point is "certain conversations", not all conversations. So its probably going to be fine most of the time.

[โ€“] Diuretic_Materialism@hexbear.net 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You're probably correct that most time, you'd figure out the persons pronouns before such a conversation came up. I'm just saying it's not a good long term solution since the English language is pretty reliant on pronouns.

[โ€“] D61@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Fair point but it does seem we're reliant on pronouns less out of necessity and more out of habit.

[โ€“] Diuretic_Materialism@hexbear.net 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Are their languages that don't use pronouns at all? I'm not familiar with any, it'd make it difficult to discuss a person when you don't know their name.

[โ€“] D61@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

...discuss a person when ...

  • Hey, you know that person we met last night?

  • Suzie, could you go help that person standing over there by the deli counter?

  • So do you know the name of the new cashier?

  • I was supposed to have a group meeting with the classmate that usually sits next to me.

  • When will the mechanic be done working on my car?

  • I'm expecting a call from an insurance agent.

Seems pretty easy to me.

[โ€“] Diuretic_Materialism@hexbear.net 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Fair enough, I guess old habits die hard.

Maybe we should just call everyone "Gary".

[โ€“] D61@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[โ€“] Diuretic_Materialism@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[โ€“] D61@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago

Always a pleasure chatting with you, Gary. :gary:

(need to find some emotes and name them "Gary" now)

[โ€“] gay_king_prince_charles@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Some people are really good at just using names. It's a skill.

[โ€“] Diuretic_Materialism@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Damn, I'm impressed. I know I'd struggle with it.

[โ€“] ElChapoDeChapo@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Honestly I struggle with remembering names so that strategy seems too advanced for me blob-no-thoughts

I can barely remember my own name most days

[โ€“] Xx_Aru_xX@hexbear.net 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Either I didn't read it right or the other person edited it after I commented idk

o7 happens to the best of us comrade

[โ€“] robot_dog_with_gun@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Repetition is the key to remembering someone's name

[โ€“] Titou@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Yeah, there's also peoples that use their name as their pronouns