"Don't date in the organization" should be at least the first hour of any orgs on-boarding meeting.
this post was submitted on 30 Apr 2024
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It's a hard problem. Joining orgs to meet people to sleep with is obvious wrecker behavior but often orgs are where you meet people most compatible with you. Every political party, even mainstream ones, has lots of people sleeping with each other. Humans are gonna catch feelings, especially in leftist orgs where trauma bonding from violent interactions with cops is possible. I don't have the solution really.
Word. I don't think there is a solution. People working together for long periods of time, some of them are gonna bang and some of them are going to break up. Idk what to do except try to make sure that no one person is a critical point of failure, and 
anyone who is serial dating their way through the whole org.
I don't have the solution really.
ok, hear me out: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Moiety_(kinship)
In such cases, the community usually has unilineal descent (either patri- or matrilineal) so that any individual belongs to one of the two moiety groups by birth, and all marriages take place between members of opposite moieties.
the obvious solution is to restrict relationships to being between members of the ancom moiety and the ML moiety. then you're also addressing sectarianism or something.
Gonna write a remake of Romeo and Juliet, but the Montagues and the Capulets are replaced with the ML and ancom moieties
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Using strategic marriages to secure an alliance
Dialectics but with extra fucking, I like it, Engels would be proud.
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Yeah that's actually brilliant and we should implement it immediately. f
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Joining orgs to meet people to sleep with is obvious wrecker behavior
joining orgs to advertise your onlyfans is still okay right?
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Joining orgs to meet people to sleep with is obvious wrecker behavior
this is like IASIP episode 2 lol
Kinda hard when so many western leftist orgs have fun events meant to attract young people.
"I can't believe people treat the DSA like a dating club! We made it clear to all the horny young people at our monthly DSA bowling tournament and karaoke mixer that inner party dating is discouraged! Why do they keep wanting to fuck each other after the quarterly bbq???"
That’s why we have 
Please fill out your C-01 form before making out with the person you've been working on a project with for three months who you've come to know and respect more than any other person during your long hours together.
There's really nothing for it. At most you try to make sure that institutional knowledge is spread around enough that a breakup can't wreck the org.
I don't think it should be absolutely forbidden, just openly communicated about when it does (inevitably) happen so there are no surprises and the (again, inevitable) drama is minimized. Ain't no way you're gonna get a bunch of young people who work closely together often not to fuck, if you forbid it they're just gonna keep silent about it.
I met my long term partner within an org, this attitude is basically just leave the women at home
This is absolutely correct. Undercover UK police use sex with female org members to get in with the group. Often even having children with them to maintain the pretence.
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No sexual relationships 
APPROVED PROTEST 
“These young folks are too focused on important things instead of mashing their genitals into each other”
If students WERE having sex at these protests, you'd hear a bunch of complaints about how they're not taking this seriously and it's all just a big party to them.
: "Clean up after yourself? Transparency in communication? Respect one another? Be disciplined!? WHAT ARE WE, A BUNCH OF ASIANS!?!?!?"
We're so cooked as a country.
The front page of Dunk Tank having not but two posts about Zionists chastising pro-Palestinian protesters for being too chaste says a lot about the Zionist mindset.
Zionism is stored in the balls!
are you man enough to save my husbands cum?
They're really scraping the bottom of the barrel to try and make the students look wrong.
don't have sex in the tents at the protests
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO HOW COULD HAMAS DO THIS NOOOOOOOOOO WHYYYYUY
sounds great, too many organizing efforts are ruined by people smashing and then causing drama with one another tbh especially when folks are young
Wash your ass, it's comradery vs washing your ass is privileged bourgeois decadence
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Is this person really saying people should be fucking in public at a protest????
literally a guideline, it can be ignored folks
clean up after yourself and our space; be considerate of hygiene
confirmed Hamas
literally genocide typical kahmas behaviour smdh my dick head
What about people in relationships that started before they joined the org?
Why do they say you can't have food in/near tents?
It can be hard to clean out and in outdoor long-term environments it can cause your tent to start to mold.
My guess is to avoid mice and other unwelcome critters
Wait her real name is Tahmineh The-Bozo-Orgy?
That whould explain why she is so concerened about the no sex rule.
She is an iranian gusano. Her name means "from a large village" . Wich is a fairly normal name. But given who she is, it makes her seem like an npc.
If I see an ex in public, I'm instantly filled with dread. Best case scenario it's someone I don't want to talk to anymore and that tension will make any encounter uncomfortable. Worst case scenario they might go monkey if they see me with someone new or know a bunch of personal shit I don't want them gossiping with others about. Even if they're totally normal and fine with it, their new partner might not be and I face the same threats from them instead.
I would hate to be in the same org as an ex. There would never be a normal working dynamic between us and there would always be at least one person with motive and means to backstab me. If I don't go to the same roller rink or climbing gym as exes, there's no way in hell I'd do something politically radical around them.
You do you but not everybody's relationships crash and burn like that, most people I know can stay in at least a not immediately hostile relationship with their ex.
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just saying, if any friend told me that just seeing an ex, any ex, was like a "oh shit man I better just get outta here this is gonna suck" kind of situation, I would have to assume that there's a social problem with that friend. it is normal to be able to interact like a friend or acquaintance with your ex, it is not normal to be unable to go to a climbing gym if you know that any of your exes might be there.
absolutely, sometimes you end up in a relationship with a real piece of shit and you can't interact with them. but by the time you're avoiding like 3+ different exes, I've gotta assume it's your fault
Even with civil endings to my relationships, those relationships ended for a reason. There's some fundamental incompatibility which is going to impact everything else. Several of my exes are bipolar and I don't know what their manic phases bring. Everyone I've dated in the past decade has previously dated someone abusive and that might be the person or type of person giving them a ride to the DSA meeting. That's all wholly unnecessary baggage which means infosec and opsec risk if you're doing something on the edge of legality. I'm avoiding them for the same reason I use a pseudonym here instead of my legal name and wear a mask at protests.
there's a fundamental romantic incompatibility between me and almost every friend I ever have had or ever will have (excluding the ones who became/become lovers at some point). being incompatible in a romantic relationship does not, in fact, necessarily impact non-romantic interactions.
do you treat everyone with a mental disorder the same way, or just the ones you banged at some point? because they have bipolar disorder you can't go to the same climbing gym as them? almost 5% of people have it my man, if more than 20 people regularly attend the place chances are you're going to run into one and, chances are, you'll never know.
Everyone I've dated in the past decade has previously dated someone abusive and that might be the person or type of person giving them a ride to the DSA meeting.
did you cause them to date abusive people? i don't really see how that's relevant. anyone showing up to your dsa meeting might have an abusive boyfriend, not just your exes
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