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[–] kristina@hexbear.net 72 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (12 children)

here to abuse my mod powers and say

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY HEXBEAR! Here's to another four years of loving our transgender comrades cat-trans

Also if anyone wants to be a mod hit me up, always looking for more to join our evil transgender cabal. only criteria is to be a socialist and trans/gender diverse/not a cissie etc. would be really excited to see some trans mascs join!

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[–] kristina@hexbear.net 19 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)
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[–] Xx_Aru_xX@hexbear.net 39 points 3 months ago (7 children)

You can upbear by pressing the little bear instead of the arrow

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[–] DerEwigeAtheist@hexbear.net 35 points 3 months ago (5 children)

I really underestimated how transfemmes are treated on the broader internet. I came to understand myself here, and kinda assumed that this place is representative.

With it's acceptance and large presence of trans feminine people, and lack of inane bullshit, but actually this seems to be the exception (apart from like small discord servers).

This is a really good place and much more exceptional in it's protection of trans people than I thought.

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago (2 children)

liberal places really do hit different

[–] DerEwigeAtheist@hexbear.net 26 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

People here just have a better understanding of "things", even withoit explicitly reading queer theory. The transphobic/transmisogynistic discussions don't happen, cause people here understand how inane and stupid they are.

Like the fucking egg discourse, everyone here would laugh those clowns out of town, and not give them the time of day. noone here cares for the plight of the femboy, and rightly so. It's obvious wrecker shit.

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[–] khizuo@hexbear.net 32 points 3 months ago (9 children)

I think it's very funny that as a small child I was like the textbook example of autism and yet nobody suspected I was autistic, probably because I was not a boy lol. Just goes to show how gender interacts with the medical field I guess.

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 32 points 3 months ago (10 children)

Manly YouTuber ♂️: Hey guys, in this video I'm gonna show you how to get the CLOSEST shave that's gonna leave you BABY smooth. For the best results, we're gonna use a straight razor. That's right, there's no substitute for BLADE on SKIN. We're gonna shave our face the same way we CUT our STEAKS, with a big KNIFE. So, if you're ready to enter the world of MANLY shaving, drop that cartridge razor and keep watching.

The trans girl watching:

knight-nod

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 31 points 3 months ago (10 children)

Late at night, thinking about how they put lil trans people in my phone and computer for me to chat with

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[–] Yor@hexbear.net 30 points 3 months ago (6 children)

personally? I'm a fan of transgender

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[–] Babs@hexbear.net 30 points 3 months ago (4 children)

boymoding for safety reasons :sicko-wistful:

boymoding to be the prettiest twink at the house party sicko-power

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[–] DerEwigeAtheist@hexbear.net 29 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (12 children)

Sometimes I go on trans spaces on tumblr, and there is so much bullshit and wreckers and stuff there. I didn't know how good we have it here.

The "discourse" currently is about how egg jokes are harmful to gnc men, and don't respect their identities.

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[–] good_girl@hexbear.net 29 points 3 months ago (4 children)

how am i supposed to girlbuy new girlclothes if i keep having to girlpay girlbills thurston

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[–] kristina@hexbear.net 29 points 3 months ago

50% of the time when i upbear someone its just so they know i read it so they dont feel like they were ignored

[–] marcie@lemmy.ml 28 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (14 children)

blahaj instanceI made a post on the trans blahaj comm about how the mega here got 3k comments and it was very highly upvoted, of course it attracted a ton of transphobic trolls (who likely aren't trans, shocker) that don't get removed and Ada is talking about how its cool and good to include fascist and exclusionary trans people in the comments because Hexbear is mean to them, oh and also being a socialist trans person is fringe, apparently. New to me!

Honestly 50/50 on just using the account I made here way back but haven't really used. I like checking in on everyone but it seems that all the other LGBT spots on fedi are ghost towns or filled with clowns. Occasionally theres like, one small thread on blahaj thats good.

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago (2 children)

the one about the blue sharkit was actually a good thing we defederated from them, and this is one of the reasons. if you cant keep your trans instance free from chasers and transphobes (but i repeat myself) then what the actual fuck are you even doing?

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[–] kristina@hexbear.net 28 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

/c/traa, the most policed place in the world? popuko-gun (3 new mods)

[–] rayne@hexbear.net 28 points 3 months ago (2 children)

My baby sister just called me sister on Facebook.

I started crying it felt so good.

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[–] rainn@hexbear.net 27 points 3 months ago (14 children)

Hello everyone, new here!

Thought I'd do a presentation of myself. I'm a Marxist-Leninist wanting to post here. I have other accounts, although I want those identities to be separate from this one, so I won't mention which ones:3

I want to participate in trans spaces more generally because being stuck in your own head is pretty bad (and lonely). I identify as a nonbinary femme person for now, I just oscilate in between them.

I'm not yet out of a toxic environment and I can't really do affirming things and it sucks. I hope I cant rant more on here and find others with experiences similar to mine and bond over it:3

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[–] Kiagz@hexbear.net 27 points 3 months ago (7 children)

Nooo, the old megathread got locked before I could send my reply boohoo

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[–] kristina@hexbear.net 27 points 3 months ago (10 children)

i will gay you and everyone you know

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[–] SexUnderSocialism@hexbear.net 27 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (6 children)

When someone in a trans shitposting community posts a femboy meme in which two girls joke that they're actually boys, and a few trans women point out that it's a problematic post because it implies that trans women are men, and then defenders are like "but femboys can be trans!"

SHUT. THE FUCK. UP. agony-shivering

But then when you make egg jokes about femboys you're evil for implying they could be trans.

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 27 points 3 months ago (5 children)

So apparently my entire issue with stardew valley being boring was because I was playing as a guy. Silly me, by playing as a girl I'm around 100x more invested in her cute little life.

I wonder if this has any real life implications lea-think Will certainly be interesting to see.

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[–] khizuo@hexbear.net 27 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)

Intellectually I know that the majority of people in the world are cisgender, but I still can't quite wrap my head around that fact.

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[–] Babs@hexbear.net 27 points 3 months ago (3 children)

My job's token cis guy got promoted out to another department. All my coworkers are trans now, cept the boss.

We become more powerful by the day.

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[–] frankfurt_schoolgirl@hexbear.net 27 points 3 months ago (5 children)

Ok so update to my last post: im probably gay.

I always thought I was bisexual, maybe leaning towards men even. But then I decided to seriously date men (and hook up with one also lol), and like idk. I feel like the parts that I liked were just things that made me feel feminine, like the contrast between our bodies or when they take me out and I feel like a woman on a date with a man. I'm sure straight women also enjoy those things, but I'm not sure that Im actually very attracted to male bodies. And maybe I don't actually like it when they touch me.

But what really convinced me lol is that I also matched with another trans person and I'm way, way more interested in them than any guy I've talked to. Like I didn't totally get their gender at first cause they didn't say much about it, but just my instinctual reaction was "this person is really pretty and I want to get to know them". It turns out they're like transfem non-binary. We got coffee the other day and Im going to see them again on Friday, which im like really we excited about.

But even if that doesn't work out it seems like pretty good evidence. Like my reaction to men has just been increasingly meh and as soon as I randomly found someone who wasn't a man I like instantly had a crush on them lol. So yeah, being gay is ok I guess.

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[–] Ambii@hexbear.net 26 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (3 children)

New account, same old me (good_girl)

entering a new era of trans posting.


thinking about it the other day and i realized that while i never connected with my culture/heritage when I thought I was cis, i'm more openly embracing it as a woman.

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[–] HelltakerHomosexual@hexbear.net 26 points 3 months ago (4 children)

made the mistake of going to another instance HOLY SHIT I HATE LIBERALS

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 26 points 3 months ago (3 children)
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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 26 points 3 months ago (14 children)

You all treating me like a girl makes me feel so comfy inside comfy I was actually was crying as I fell asleep last night I was so happy. There's no point to this post other then I LOVE MY TRANS COMRADES meow-bounce

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 26 points 3 months ago (13 children)

If they did the hexbear dating app, I'm pretty sure it'd end up like a middle school dance except everyone is just gonna do the dating app equivalent of hanging out next to the punch bowl never having asked anyone else out

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 26 points 3 months ago (4 children)

I broke up with my gf πŸ’”

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[–] Yor@hexbear.net 26 points 3 months ago (3 children)

local sleepy girl is forced to get out of bed πŸ˜’

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[–] Babs@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Local communist bar has a pretty cool regular transfem event but also everyone there is so flirty and it's awkward constantly being like "oh i have a bf".

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[–] Yor@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago (3 children)

being a bit reflective of who I was four years ago, I had so many brainworms haha. going from only posting trans stuff on an alt to being open on my main account and irl was really necessary for my mental health

big fan of trans people, big fan of being here with all of you cat-trans

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[–] Yor@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago (8 children)

when will the cis users realize they're in the late stage rebranding of hexbear-retro to hexbear-trans

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[–] Aru@lemmygrad.ml 25 points 3 months ago (4 children)

Since y'all are making it to a trauma mega thread I'd have a go

spoilerFrom late primary school to the end of middle school kids used to bully me for having autism by triggering me, like they'd scratch plastic next to my ear, spit on me, call me stuff that I didn't like, treat me like a child and other things that make spaz out.

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[–] Evilphd666@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)

(CW deliberate misgendering, censored deadnaming, anti-autism comment)

Vivian Jenna Wilson, Elon's trans daughter speaks out and calls out his lies about her.

Can we somehow get in touch with vivian-shrug and have her come visit hexbear-pride?

(Love the little friendly rivalry between the trans / news megas lol)

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[–] LeylaLove@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago (5 children)

Living with trans people is so cool

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (15 children)

Filling out a disability application and it asks for your fucking agab. Quick, why? hst-gun I had half a mind to do it up wrong but egh.

I look at this shit and I think of leslie-feinberg tbh. You were so right, about everything, please come back!!!! We still need you, sad as it is!!!

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[–] SnowySkyes@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago (6 children)

Talking about depression, mild mentions of bottom surgeryDepression has wound up hard the last couple of days. Still hasn't fully gone away since starting up 3 weeks ago. Dysphoria decided to pop up again for the first time since bottom surgery as well. It's excessively bad right now, too. Shan't get into it because I really don't want to trigger others' dysphoria, which is partially why I've been sent into this spiral. I always find myself wanting to help people out with their issues here, but it takes its mental toll on me over time. And well, I probably shouldn't be trying nowadays all things considered. I genuinely should take a break, but I don't want to leave you folks here. This is a great community and I love all of you.

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[–] Jenniferrr@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago (7 children)

My boobs are becoming visible through a hoodie. Honestly making me kinda nervous cause I'm still boymoding at work

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[–] rayne@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago (8 children)

Well comrades, I couldn't wait a week for the nurse to show me how. Watched a YouTube video on subcutaneous injections.

And injected my first dose of estradiol about ten minutes ago.

Feeling a lot of good things atm.

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[–] Wake@hexbear.net 25 points 3 months ago (4 children)

So my best friend, who has know I was trans for a few months, is over at my house tonight. Which is normal, he comes over all the time. What's new is that I'm still in girlmode. And chat, I'm having the time of my life. This is the first time I've girlmoded while someone was over. bridget-vibe

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[–] Babs@hexbear.net 24 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Wanna travel across the world handing out estrogen vials like some sorta trans mansa musa.

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 24 points 3 months ago (4 children)

Computer girls and guys and enbies, I call ye!

I'm building my first computer. All the components are in. I have no idea how to make sure it's cool (as in temp lol). I've never built one

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[–] belligerentkitten@hexbear.net 24 points 3 months ago (4 children)

intersex stuff and hormone issuesi’m intersex and have various health conditions and it all combines to create a situation where i must be on T, and i can only be on very limited amounts of E. i’m still trying to find the right E levels that won’t cause me problems.

this is kinda annoying and i wish i could change it but there is nothing i can really do without having a surgery i can’t afford and don’t really want.

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 24 points 3 months ago (8 children)

waffling about orchitectomy stuffI haven't made the call yet but Oh man, I'm probably gonna have to inform my dad that I'll be down for a couple days or weeks or whatever due to orchi, holy shit. What am I even gonna do about that?

Further: my endo is cool, but is the surgeon or whoever gonna be super fucking weird about it? Is every staff member I interact with gonna be super fucking weird about it?

distress For a split second I had hoped that being more chill about my anatomy now would help, but talking to basically-randoms, or like, your dad, about your body still seems really unfun.

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[–] regularassbitch@hexbear.net 24 points 3 months ago (4 children)

is there anything better than typing a journal entry into the text box and then deleting it before you publish it to the world

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 24 points 3 months ago (6 children)

I’m gonna be honest, pretty much half of my motivation lately is just from the idea of showing up to my sister’s wedding in half a year as a pretty girl and shocking all my family. bridget-smug

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