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Children of Time is a 2015 science fiction novel by Adrian Tchaikovsky.

In the distant future, humanity seeks to create new habitats for itself on distant planets, terraforming them and seeding them with life. Dr. Avrana Kern is heading one such project, orbiting the tentatively named "Kern's World", where the plan is to release monkeys le-monke infected with a nanovirus that will accelerate their evolution. Through an act of sabotage from an anti-technology group that has also destroyed much of Earth, the monkeys are never released, and the virus instead infects a species of spider, Portia labiata. The book follows the evolution of the spiders and their eventual civilisation, as well as a remnant of humanity that fled to Kern's World hoping to find paradise.


also children of ruin and children of memory, the sequels, are really good


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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 9 points 6 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i'll add you to the list!

the list as it stands:

Yukiko (1/13 - 1/19)
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​ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 6 points 1 hour ago (2 children)

weightthe tweet this person is quoting and all the replies going β€œI’m 5’7+ and a similar weight” is going to give me an ED I swear to God.
Like…okay, your BMI 17-18 and look like that? Guess I’ll go down to 90 pounds then.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 4 points 43 minutes ago

spoilerThat person in particular looks way closer <16 in terms of BMI (as in they're not being truthful about their actual weight) and is gonna be less fertile due to issues relating to malnutrition and hormone interruption particularly if they have a history of anorexia. Also even if the end up carrying a child, the kid ends up with a crazy growth restrictions unless the parent is willing to eat more than usual for them. You do eat for "two" but it's like an extra bagel a day - and to someone with an ED, that might be a thing they're unwilling to do. Pregnant people sometimes continue using some intense drugs like meth or opiates, it's very possible to continue having an ED.

For the others in the comments, they might be truthful or not. Everybody's bodies look different. I wish I could say "don't get hung up on it" but I know that's hard. Do your best to stick to a healthy BMI, but BMI isn't the end all be all anyway. As a woman, including a trans woman on HRT, a healthy body fat % is actually higher than pre hrt. Do your best not to compare to pictures and focus on what is medically healthy, pictures can lie as in misreport an actual weight or they can be modified by things like photocopy. Your wife says you're pretty how you are, right? That means something too.

[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 2 points 17 minutes ago

The whole account is just rage bait meant to trick people into engaging by making them feel bad. Please don't let it affect you too much.

[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 3 points 3 hours ago

Saturday nights all right for fighting

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 3 points 4 hours ago

i am excited for space engineers 2

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 15 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

I got kidnapped by a bunch of trans girls today. Was not expecting that to be how my day ended but I'm not complaining

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 9 points 9 hours ago

I hope they treated you in a very ladylike manner

[–] Mousy@hexbear.net 12 points 12 hours ago (2 children)

Every time i try to join a discord i'm too afraid to actually say anything.

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 8 points 10 hours ago

Incredibly relatable

[–] QueerCommie@hexbear.net 8 points 11 hours ago

I have said many embarrassing things, so perhaps that’s fair.

[–] KatGirl@hexbear.net 10 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

How do I tell my hairstylist that I want this haircut without showing them this image of a dog girl?

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 9 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

That hair cut more or less looks like what is literally called a wolf cut. Or you can just get bangs. Or just show her the picture, whatever

[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 9 points 9 hours ago

Wrong. The correct answer should only be "show her the dog girl pic"

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 13 points 13 hours ago (4 children)

I have my HRT consultation on Thursday and I can't stop thinking about it

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 5 points 9 hours ago

congratulations

Get those girl pills/injections/patches!

[–] khizuo@hexbear.net 6 points 11 hours ago

So happy for you!!! heart-sickle

[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 5 points 12 hours ago
[–] Mousy@hexbear.net 10 points 12 hours ago (1 children)
[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)
[–] buh@hexbear.net 9 points 12 hours ago

crappy day folx, I decided to switch from Windows to Fedora, and after installing it, I noticed my PC only recognizes 8 out of the 16GB of RAM that should be there? I confirmed this in the BIOS, and tried to go about fixing it by reseating the GPU and RAM (I have had a problem like this before that was fixed that way), and now I can't get it to boot at all (my theory is one of the RAM sticks was fucked and I ended up fucking up the other). Luckily I have a backup mini PC I bought last year that I intended to use as a home server but never got around to setting up. But while I was moving the old PC to storage, something sharp at the bottom of the case cut my middle finger! 😡 not so bad that I have to go to the hospital or anything, but it's deeper than most finger cuts I've had before. I was just getting back into guitar and now I'm gonna have to take a break from that for probably a week πŸ˜“.

On the bright side, the Fedora experience has already been a lot better so far, I always had minor problems with Windows on my old PC, mainly to do with intermittent wifi (only fixed by limiting it to wifi 3) and random crashes (which I think had to do with the GPU driver, but I'm not buying another GPU just to see if that fixes it), but Fedora Just Works. Also I was expecting to run into issues when moving the SSD from my old PC to the "new" one, but it's pretty much been a plug and play experience.

[–] anonochronomus@hexbear.net 8 points 14 hours ago

POS10 posting POSTIN TRANSITION COMPLETE; I am now Alice D. Addertounge newest member of the Sun Ra Arkestra! Rocket number nine to the planet Venus!

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 14 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

I'm feeling particularly content today and wish I knew how to recreate this feeling more consistently. I feel cheerful in a way where I don't feel like I'm faking it

[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 12 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Write a note to yourself in the future. Explain to her that you genuinely feel content and authentic. Let her know that it's possible for her to feel this way, regardless of however she's feeling when she reads it.

Read it when you're feeling doubtful.

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 8 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

This is wonderful advice. I'm doing this now

[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 5 points 9 hours ago

I should take my own advice sometimes catgirl-happy

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 19 points 17 hours ago (2 children)

Ugh I hope I never tire of people telling me they love my outfit

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 8 points 15 hours ago

Hasn't happened to me yet, either

[–] khizuo@hexbear.net 11 points 17 hours ago

I still haven't! cat-trans

[–] Wendy_Pleakley@hexbear.net 13 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (1 children)

yapping about traumathe more I think about trauma, the more unfair I think it is to make traumatized adults participate in capitalist society when they're basically kids.

social services should circle the wagons and let people heal and learn before they have to grow up. it should be given the same urgency as a house fire.

like literally it's not right. you shouldn't be able to grow up wrong. people who need to learn to love themselves should be given that care. not access, not the option, point blank, provided with mental health resources and professionals.

when someone injures their leg, it's not, "oh oh I hope you can get the help you need" it's "holy shit he can't fucking walk we gotta help". why is mental health different LMAO

Obviously I'm being ridiculous and describing something that will never happen. Wanting to be dead is a feature, not a bug.

[–] Azarova@hexbear.net 3 points 7 hours ago

replying about traumaI think about this all the time. Insane that we're expected to go through life and deal all the things non-traumatized people struggle with as if we're not trying to also put together and build up ourselves from nothing but a completely shattered foundation. And worst of all, this massive, gaping wound we're stuck trying to heal is basically completely invisible. It's not like we're walking around with casts on or bandages or something like that, so all the ways we struggle can just get written off as being lazy or irresponsible or whatever the fuck people tend to assume. I feel like the only humane way to treat trauma would be to give people at least a few years off of any responsibility so they can just focus on healing, because the stress of trying to do that while juggling a "normal life" feels like it only aggrevates the wound and is generally unproductive in both areas.

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 18 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

I've said this all before but I'm feeling it real good again. I'm so freaking thankful for this website. I'm so so so glad I came on here and made that post with my feels and met you all. I'm almost certain I would still be calling myself a cis man i it wasn't for you all 😭, and because I don't, I'm happier than I've ever been. I'm still trying to figure out the details, but realizing I don't have to be a guy has been so unimaginably freeing, and I wanted to thank you all again for helping me realize it.

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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 14 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

I tried playing marvel rivals with some friends and its kinda fun, but also reminded me why I stopped playing those types of games: so many people who can't take a loss without getting insanely mad doggirl-sweat The absurdity of it is kinda funny when it happens, but it creates such a negative environment where i don't want to spend that much time tbh

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 6 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Unless it's your friends getting mad online, just mute the in-game voice chat.

[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 6 points 14 hours ago

I have but people still rage in the text chat. Guess I could just mute that too

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