sexism
I have a difficult time calling myself and being called a woman but not for gender reasons I don't think. I like girl and lady. I think it's because growing up, the context I would hear the word "woman" being used the most is my dad referring to my mom, and tying her fulfilment of her "biblical duties" to her womanhood. I think it's hard for me to separate the word from that connotation, even though I know it's bullshit. Like every time someone calls me a woman I feel my dad calling me one and I hate it.
this post was submitted on 06 Jan 2025
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Trans Megathread for the Week of 2025-01-06 to 2025-01-12 - Children of Time by Adrian Tchaikovsky
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Children of Time is a 2015 science fiction novel by Adrian Tchaikovsky.
In the distant future, humanity seeks to create new habitats for itself on distant planets, terraforming them and seeding them with life. Dr. Avrana Kern is heading one such project, orbiting the tentatively named "Kern's World", where the plan is to release monkeys 
infected with a nanovirus that will accelerate their evolution. Through an act of sabotage from an anti-technology group that has also destroyed much of Earth, the monkeys are never released, and the virus instead infects a species of spider, Portia labiata. The book follows the evolution of the spiders and their eventual civilisation, as well as a remnant of humanity that fled to Kern's World hoping to find paradise.
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Sometimes we just have personal reasons why certain gendered terms donβt work for us. Hate your dad, though.
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called the college LGBTQ center
left a voicemail
if this truly is a solo journey then i have to accept that i have nobody. it's just me. it might always be just me.
Good job!!!
does anyone have tips for a gnome infestation. i tried publicly crucifying one to send a message but they seem to have founded a religion instead
I've been warning y'all for years about this but not one of you took me serious π
it makes me happy whenever i see capybara in hot springs. they deserve all the love and goodness in the world
Hell yeah
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anyone who dislikes the ember island players episode is no friend of mine
vince staples if he was woke: girl yeah right yeah right yeah right
Sonic forces
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Feminization? Like and subscribe to find out more
Me working at sega"Alright, so new plan we start a new sonic game but we don't remake green hill zone my last words before being thrown out a window
sonic x green hill generations and it's just every version of green hill zone. and that's the game
You jest but it's gonna become that, something something mark fishers capital realism but with green hill zone
it's easier to imagine the end of the world than the end of green hill zone remakes
THEY'RE TURNING THEIR FRIGGIN' KEYBOARDS TRANS
Death to the reactionary egg prime directive! Long live the revolutionary zone of proximal transgender development!
I think the egg prime directive is around to prevent heartache, like a Nevada style thing.
I would've loved if someone told me at 14 that I was feeling so awful about puberty and browsing like fictionmania and researching trans healthcare and being jealous of how my mom related to my sister was all because I was a girl and I could be transgender too. As obvious as it was post egg crack, it wasn't when I was living through it... I probably would've just rejected all that and said "nope still a guy"
But the weird toxic discourse about the egg prime directive isn't about any of that, it's about thinking being called a trans woman or trans man or non binary is the worst thing like an insult or that people who just play with gender (tom boy or butch lesbian) might be "pressured" to transition. I love being trans, it's not an insult to me. We have one last cis het guy in our friend group, everyone else came out and/or transitioned, who we lightly tease about somehow being the last cishet.
I feel like you can respect the egg prime directive while still helping others with realization.
I've been here going on and on about big gender feelings for like a year, and nobody ever told me I was trans or that I should start hormones or whatever. They just helped me along until I came to those decisions myself.
Speaking of... Can someone finally tell me I'm trans now!?
I've been here going on and on about big gender feelings for like a year, and nobody ever told me I was trans or that I should start hormones or whatever. They just helped me along until I came to those decisions myself.
Yes that's the ZPTD not the egg prime directive. Egg prime directive is saying nothing and making your "friend's" dysphoria last years longer than it needed to.
You're trans!!! 
Finally MY GOD
My wife thinks she can ratio me. ME!
Pfft, weβll show her 
listen well this tale of dysphoric(?) woe
Giggling with my friend at work as some of the gals we're friendly with have some incredibly candid sex discussions in the next cubicle over since the office is basically empty
She goes over to tell them that we can definitely hear everything they're saying
I think I can hear one of them poke fun at the fact that I (boymoding, only out to my friend) can hear
Suddenly reminded of the distance that exists between me and them because of how they perceive me
Feel very far away, almost "shell-shocked" for the remaining half hour of the work day
According to my friend they were actually cool with me hearing and that I was explicitly invited to join in when the next such Empty Office Sex Salon occurs. But I still can't shake the feeling that I'm different, that me being there just pollutes everything and they'll always view me with some unshakable suspicion and wariness, like a wild animal that could snap and start mauling people.
I honestly don't get too much dysphoria, to the point that I don't even know if this counts?? but this is the feeling that gets me. Can't we just pretend I'm part of the group? I'm not that much different from you on the inside, I promise.
This is actually one of the quickest ways to gender euphoria once you're out. I've met so many inclusive, supportive cis women over the last years, even when i was freshly out and not passing at all. It's mindblowing how much it changes conversations and social interactions and how natural it feels to be included.
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i think the feeling of being excluded from groups of women has been a major source of dysphoria throughout my life. even when i'm physically there, i've also felt that distance which keeps me from being fully apart of it. that's starting to die down lately, i'm out at work and this week someone said "oh it's just the girls here!" which was small but still pretty euphoric to hear. you deserve to feel like you belong and i hope you're able to do that soon or in non-work settings 
There's a woman in my office who makes little gifts for the other women in the office during holidays, and I never get one, and it makes me sad
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brainrot humor, CSM spoilers (kinda)
Me and the people who hugbox me
Gonna try taking another break from the bearsite as I have some queer shit IRL planned so I wanna see if I can start doing that to help my burnout. Also think its time for me to say goodbye to this account as its getting too old opsec wise. Sucks because I like this user name :(.
Maybe I'll look into if I can just delete all my posts or something and not make a new account but that still has opsec issues do idk
Good luck with your irl plans, I hope it helps with burnout!
My mom and I are watching the second squid game season, the trans character is cute and very relatable which I wasn't expecting (apparently the actor is a cis guy). Kinda weird how much of the trans experience is apparently universal.
We're watching it dubbed and I really appreciate that they cast a voice actress that didn't have the perfect femme voice training or cast a cis girl to voice her. She sounds more or less like I do on a "bad" voice day lol
My fuckin bottom surgery application was rejected because I faxed it the same day as my doctors did his half π. And it took a few months for them to reject me, now I'll just have to do it again I guess
unlimited death to bureauocracy
aw fucking hell, my condolences
Such bullshit. That shouldn't even be an issue
My ~~knit~~ crocheted panda is looking a lot more odd and scruffy than the stuff my sister makes, but that's okay, he's mine and I love him 