Massive headache today and I've still got a handful of chores to run
this post was submitted on 06 Jan 2025
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Trans Megathread for the Week of 2025-01-06 to 2025-01-12 - Children of Time by Adrian Tchaikovsky
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Children of Time is a 2015 science fiction novel by Adrian Tchaikovsky.
In the distant future, humanity seeks to create new habitats for itself on distant planets, terraforming them and seeding them with life. Dr. Avrana Kern is heading one such project, orbiting the tentatively named "Kern's World", where the plan is to release monkeys 
infected with a nanovirus that will accelerate their evolution. Through an act of sabotage from an anti-technology group that has also destroyed much of Earth, the monkeys are never released, and the virus instead infects a species of spider, Portia labiata. The book follows the evolution of the spiders and their eventual civilisation, as well as a remnant of humanity that fled to Kern's World hoping to find paradise.
also children of ruin and children of memory, the sequels, are really good
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Richard and Mortimer was quite good for it's run, I especially like when one half of the titular characters turned themselves into a pickle. Had the series continued perhaps that scallywag Richard could have transformed some more possibly into a woman, they might have finally been happy. Alas with the cancellation by the Woke Council with the show's association with the Ronald McDonald corporation we shall never see this possibility.
every single person who's ever protested the building of new homes because it'll lower house prices should have their house confiscated and given to someone who doesn't suck
sorry boss i can't come in to work today. my wife is holding my arm hostage while she sleeps. yeah idk i'll be in next week maybe. i expect full pay for this
IDK why but I always feel really weepy after laser sessions. I think it's physically unpleasant, but it also makes me immanently aware of my facial hair in a way I rarely am. But the results are sooo worth it! My family is distantly from the Mediterranean and I have had a full beard since 18. I wish I would have finished during my first run at laser, but I am committed to staying the course this time.
transphobia is some bullshit. i thought people liked pretty girls but apparently want to stop me from become one? what gives?
fake fans smh
What is going on? People used to like pretty girls. Not anymore! Now they're transphobic. What happened?
Dreamt I was on the moon and I really needed to piss but didn't ๐ฉ
it's so strange that americans just did that to their cities. complete unforced error
truly. I took a trip to New York City for the first time and walking around the (now very gentrified) East Village I was like 'ah yes.' Only time I have ever had anything remotely resembling 'retvrn brain'.
Got really drunk on saturday and finally came out to my irl friend group chat. Waking up not remembering doing that was "fun". This is also the second time I've gotten way too drunk and came out (first time was almost ten years ago when I came out to them at a party as bisexual)
Would not recommend it.
internalized transphobia relating to age
In my coming out message I put in my chosen name and for the first two days afterwards, I thought that maybe I wasn't ready to do that.
On analyzing that feeling I'm realizing that it might just be attatched to my internalized shame about coming out at my age and feeling that this whole thing, this whole experience, is a kid/teen/young adult thing. Like thinking about it makes me feel like I'm going to be physically ill. I actually gag when I think about it, out of shame or embarrassment.
I think I need to talk to more older trans people.
I'm probably on the slightly older side of this site's demographic if you ever want to chat or have some questions or whatever, dunno how helpful I can be since uh, my own gender is still an ongoing work in progress but I like to try to help and you're free to ask me anything
Congrats on coming out? Hope it has gone well. Seems better than coming out to people and later realizing they were too drunk to remember effectively having to come out again on the spot.
::: spoiler spoiler Does feel weird going through a lot of these experiences at an age I wouldn't expect to be going through these kinds of things. At Christmas, a 3 people in my family were talking about some of their early experiences either realizing they were lesbians and I think they were all like Primary/Elementary school age. Stepmom didn't say anything in that conversation, so I'm now curious if this kind of thing might be why? Idk when she found out, but I'm pretty sure she knew at least by the time she was a teen?
So being like 3 times the age other people have their LGBTQ+ realizations makes it sorta embarrassing I took so long to notice.
Hi Ambii
same feelings
internalized shame about coming out at my age and feeling that this whole thing, this whole experience, is a kid/teen/young adult thing. Like thinking about it makes me feel like I'm going to be physically ill. I actually gag when I think about it, out of shame or embarrassment.
I really felt the exact same way and still do sometimes. It's actually very common. I made a post about it once, and there were a lot of very supportive people who responded. You can check out what they said Here . I'm on the older end of the general population here as far as transition age goes, but there are some people who transitioned even later than me in that thread.
In fact, this feeling is so common that this isn't the first time I've linked this post
You can DM me whenever if you wanna chat with a ahem mature woman.
also same feelings
Hey, is it cool if I dm you later too? I'm early 30s and still struggling with "I'm too old to still feel this adolescent" type shit
Of course~
Thank you for that post. Commiserating with the comments was... therapeutic (?) in a way.
Definitely. I felt the same way
My checklist for mental health are make sure I'm clean shaven, paint my nails, and finally epilate. If I can do 2/3 I feel fine usually but feeling bleh so might push myself to do the last one. Just gonna procrastinate first and get some reading done or whatev
The way I think about that if I am feeling depresso/low energy is that it is a sort of limit break activity and even if I overexert it will be made up for by how much better I feel in the whole.
Good plan, guess I'll get to it and epilate one leg and do the other on Saturday once I mentally recover. Awkward day in between but it's the best I can manage
it's better than nothing! you got this <3
everybody's beepin!
bip
what the fuck.
i am declining to comment.
So it turns out my sperm is totally poggers. I think I'm just gonna have to do the whole thing including the extra legwork to get FDA clearance in case it needs to be used with a surrogate. It'll cost like 1k up front and then "no more than 400/yr" for storage
I just hate hate hate hate taking options away from myself, there is no worse feeling for me than realizing I can't do or have something because of a stupid decision I made in the past
I'm so glad I started growing my hair out when I did
"I just really like longer hair on guys and really want to try it myself" -my egg ass (to be fair I do still think guys with long hair look real nice)
Now I keep looking at it and it's sooooo weird to think I ever had shorter hair
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secretly kind of hoping that Donald Trump will be too busy thining about invading Greenland and/or Canada that he'll be too busy to do anything terrible for trans people
Fingers crossed, and hopefully Canada will be too busy thinking of Trump's impending invasion for the next likely PM (Poilievre) to do the same as well.
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Does it make sense that I'm kind of hoping I've actually been infertile all along? Then I wouldn't have to be responsible about fertility preservation. It would just be a fact of life and nothing anyone can blame me for
That makes total sense to me. It basically absolves you from making a major decision
CW: Depression, dysphoria
I have been so godsdamned depressed the last few days that is stemming from some extreme dysphoria that I've been feeling with. And yes, regardless of after having had top and bottom surgery, I am capable of becoming dysphoric. I don't feel genuine. I feel fake. Without having had those experiences I missed on growing up, I feel that I will always be on the outside looking in regardless of what I do. I always see these ciswomen whose experiences I could never emulate and it just kills me on the inside. Yay. I have a vagina, I have breasts, but I'll never have those experiences. It depresses the hell out of me and it is draining the will to live out of me. I hate it so much. Couple that with feeling of not being capable of fitting in with any trans communities for a multitude of reasons. Further couple that with the crushing depression that's on and off since my divorce and I just fucking hate life right now. yay
My parents and immediate family keep asking me "when are you bringing home a girlfriend?" every time I visit and I have no idea how to tell them that sooner or latter the "girlfriend" that will come home might just be me.
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