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Peaches - Trans Megathread from April 7th, 2025 to April 13th, 2025 (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 week ago by JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net to c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net

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Didn't have a chance to write up a detailed post, either on a fruit or the topic I was originally thinking about. I think they're neat and they taste good.

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 13 points 2 days ago (2 children)

just blatantly breaking the volcel police laws, extreme horny and also pretty sad posting

born to be the town bicycle, just an absolute free loving, easy slut panting

forced to be an awkward, virginal, autistic trans woman who doesn't pass deeper-sadness

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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 14 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I went to the park to read today and got a shit ton of side eye and weird looks. I guess the world isn't ready for my cuteness

[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago

Hate those people.

How boring does your life have to be that it makes you stare at people?

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 2 days ago

genital dysphoria posting

ugh. you know, i was really thinking that i wouldn't be getting this until years later in my life but recently i've been really, really looking forward to the idea of getting bottom surgery. my genital dysphoria has been getting worse and worse recently and i keep thinking that damn it would be really nice to get a pussy soon. I don't like having a penis :(

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 10 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

More cuddles lined up for tomorrow with the cutie, gosh this part of my life makes me happy meow-melt also personals are the shit plus they are kinda like a horny little newspaper lea-finger-guns

::: spoiler i am a horny lesbian God i love women. I love loving women. I love loving women as a woman. I love kissing women. I love worshipping women, being worshipped by women, being fucked by women, whipped by women, teased by women... God i love women panting

[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

more cudddllllsss!!!! yippee :D

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Cuddles are just the best, especially when theyre the kind that, uh, escalate catgirl-smug

[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

where does one obtain cuddls doggirl-tears am still looking doggirl-gloom

also im-fuckin-gay waow-based

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 4 points 2 days ago

I found my cuddles through a qtpoc personals app, and its tended to work out well for me the few times ive posted/responded ^^

[–] CDommunist@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago

Peaches are good. Goodbye peaches!

[–] shallot@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Just saw I saw the TV glow for the first time and holy shit

[–] shallot@hexbear.net 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

The ending was like a “fuck you” directed at me personally. I think that was the point. Wow.

Not like in a mean way, but like in a Jesus Christ get it together what are you doing ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh kinda way

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Real, worst fear.

still haven't gotten together tho

[–] shallot@hexbear.net 5 points 2 days ago

Absolutely incredible

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

My sibling was telling me about a hateful bumble message they got from a man, I muttered "basement...", I'm pretty Dorleypilled.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 5 points 2 days ago

I had of course explained Welcome to Dorley Hall to them 10minutes earlier, so they also agreed "basement"...

[–] SamotsvetyVIA@hexbear.net 11 points 3 days ago

fuck reddit. i made a new account (because the current one is already permabanned) so that i can message a recently homeless trans kid in russia and it suspends it almost instantly

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 22 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I want this outfit, I want this hair.

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 13 points 3 days ago (1 children)

but brown, blondes are overrated

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 8 points 3 days ago

you know, i just told myself today that once my hair grows out i'm going to get around to dying it blonde, and now i'm going to do it even blonder now after reading that maddened

[–] PeeNutButtHer@hexbear.net 8 points 3 days ago (2 children)

nsfw genital dysphoria

god I fucking hate having a dick. I naturally have a pretty darn high sex drive but every time getting off just feels so unsatisfying and disappointing cause I hate what I have, no matter what I do. I can't wait for SRS, but that's years away at the minimum and maybe never if worse case scenario. the wave of dysphoria and disgust is really getting to me, I know I'm not just going to stop masturbating for the next several years or anything like that so I've got to deal with the discomfort and dysphoria and never actually being satisfied. Shit suuuuuuuuuuckkkkkks

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 4 points 2 days ago

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Yea pretty much, basically always on the edge of tears with it. Hoping I'll be lucky and E will kill my drive completely because fuck this. Always dysphoric as shit and makes it so fucking difficult.

Also idek if I want a vagina, I can't imagine it, but I definitely do not feel comfortable as is.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 5 points 3 days ago

spoiler

I have such a weird relationship with my gock. I'm a top but I haven't had the greatest relationship with it for pretty much forever. I have no interest in bottoming without a vagina so I just got this mostly annoying thing that I have to make do with every once in a while.

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 9 points 3 days ago (5 children)

dysphoria raving, doomer shit

Did I permanently fuck my brain by deciding not to look at myself for years?
So many girlies make posts like “X months on estrogen and I can finally see(or start to see) a girl in the mirror.” Or “I can actually stand to look at myself because I can see the changes that are happening.”

I feel like if I look in the mirror after all this time and don’t see a cis woman it’s jover, not that I can be sure my brain would even acknowledge I pass if I did with my potential BDD.

There is a really cynical part of me that thinks estrogen isn’t “magic” and all the baby trans will eventually be bitter and disappointed like me when that reality hits.
But I’m hoping I am just mentally ill and delusional.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 6 points 3 days ago

spoiler

I dunno, I ain't a baby trans and I like how I look and estrogen did do a lot for me. I don't think the trans narrative ends in inevitable heartbreak like you've suggested. I'm not saying I woke up one day and looked like a cis woman, I still get misgendered. It's very black and white thinking to suppose that unless one "looks cis" (whatever that means, I would interrogate what you consider the feminine archetype and think on its racist and patriarchal roots) then HRT is a failure. Plenty of my cis woman coworkers don't "look cis."

Also you've talked about passing plenty of time you silly goose :p You're short, you get passing points off being such a short girl.

[–] Diva@lemmy.ml 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

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I don't think you've done anything permanent, I did pretty much the same thing for close to two decades. Looking back on photos I looked miserable and barely recognize myself in them still. That said I don't think I'd 'pass' if it was under scrutiny, but the estrogen isn't to blame for that, it's more skill issue on my part.

I feel like if I look in the mirror after all this time and don’t see a cis woman it’s jover

This really shouldn't be the goal, but remember that cis women can have things like PCOS. I see mostly cis women when I go to get electrolysis done for example. If the goal is blending in you probably fit in better than you think, and even cis women can fail to 'pass' with the unrealistic standards at play.

[–] PeeNutButtHer@hexbear.net 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

spoiler

HRT is just one part of transition and there's a lot more to be done. I'm in a similar boat to you where I've been on e for almost 3 years but I haven't really done anything else so I don't look like a woman to myself in the mirror, but I'm hoping that I eventually will

It's a long nebulously process that goes smoothly for some people and very rough for others, it's just luck of the draw (and also money, it goes soooo much easier if you've got money)

Estrogen isn't magic, is pretty good but not magic. And a lot of trans people do end up becoming disappointed, but that's just something to work past. Or at least I hope, idk I'm pretty doomer about shit but I've been trying to turn my perspective around recently. There's a lot of other shit to do besides just hrt. Like weight cycling, voice training, makeup, exercise, etc

Really voice is super important, it's often the "tie-breaker" if your androgynous and someone is trying to gender you. I should take my own advice thought and voice train, it fucking sucks doing but it needs to be done

[–] awth13@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

magic

The way I see it, HRT is magic but what it doesn't do is make you someone else. The latter part is what I see many people (including myself) struggle with. I used to hang out in voice training communities a lot and see so many people say "I seem to be doing fine and other people like my voice but to me it still sounds like the old me, what am I doing wrong", which seems absurd if you really think about it. Of course you are going to sound like yourself and, similarly, you are going to retain some physical features the "old you" used to have. You are you after all and not someone else, and there is nothing right or wrong about that, that's just how it be.

So when someone says (again including myself) that they will never look like a "cis woman", I invite them to question where they got the idea of what this mythical "cis woman" is supposed to look like and realise that this idea is fundamentally built from images of other people. The real worry, then, is expanding this idea to include yourself (if yourself wants to be a cis woman anyway) and HRT happens to help with that a lot.

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[–] Angel@hexbear.net 13 points 3 days ago

Rizz update:

I shared some of my music with her, and she was really impressed. I gave her a few of the full files because she said she wants to work out to them.

She's been so sweet and nice... very damn appreciative of everything I have to say. She's such a calm, gentle, and beautiful soul. I'm nervous because I really really really like her, but my rizz always has me covered...

Things will most likely continue to go well. Sharing my music with her helped us to get a bit more into personal hobbies and stuff like that because we mostly talked about things like Palestine, communism, and veganism besides that.

[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 13 points 3 days ago

Going to bed before midnight for the first time in awhile and am comfortably worn out from the gym and freshly showered and took all my supplements and have comfy PJs, wish me luck on sleeping well because goddamn I've been bad at that lately

niko-sleep

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 3 days ago (2 children)

i absolutely hate being this old and still completely and utterly single

i absolutely do not have the time or energy to even think about dating right now

screaming on floor

[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 7 points 3 days ago

Well, I thought I didn'tbhave the time or energy to start dating, but then I realized that it was such a priority to try to address my emotional needs that I made time and found energy.

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[–] SamotsvetyVIA@hexbear.net 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

sucks never being out at night just because i have a job. used to hang out with friends till after midnight, now i gotta be in bed by 9 so i can fuck around in a box with fluorescent lights all day

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 6 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I have a similar mood except it’s from moving timezones

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[–] Diva@hexbear.net 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Anyone else been using transfem.dev for matrix and having issues with performance?

see here:

https://girlboss.ceo/~strawberry/conduwuit.txt

I just switched over to matrix.org, feeling a little sad now though

[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 3 points 2 days ago

Same, that's really upsetting. I switched to another homeserver using conduwuit, but it seems like synapse is the only option at this point. I have other accounts on synapse instances, but it's still upsetting (not to mention the tracha space and some of the rooms run on transfem.dev).

Also, there is no reason it should have been getting the harassment it got. It's extremely disappointing to see, and I completely understand why she had to leave the project. Hoping that she's able to recover from all of this.

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 14 points 3 days ago (3 children)

It’s weird that I am whole-ass married when kissing still flusters me doggirl-sweat

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[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Entertain me

[–] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Sure! Why not? Just click this link here for endless entertainment. nayuta-peace

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Sure thing princess! I'm juggling irl how's that

[–] Disaster_of_Passion@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

What are you juggling? I'm curious.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I can juggle three of anything. When I was younger, I could three of anything and they didn't have to be the same weight or shape but now they gotta be mostly the same. 2 oranges!

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 8 points 3 days ago

Can the three things be three trans women and if so can I be one of them?

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

whining and being sad, talking about self harm in a way that's probably triggering

Feel so lonely and shitty and depressed about my situation. As far as being able to transition, having to transition at all, i know i don't really have the effort required in me anyway. Anyway just feeling shitty about the situation that's been upsetting me the last few days and finally snapped. i'm so sick of feeling like shit. Just using a rubber band so no scars so who even cares. not as satisfying or good but whatever. its pain which is good and what i want right now. i'm too stupid and cowardly and whatever else to fix my situation so we make due.

spoiler passive si god i want to wake up dead, i've been wanting that, i'm so sick of all this shit. Unfortuantely my "dying in my sleep" polan has not been working out for me and there's no backup. i have no way to move out and even if i did that only fixes some of it.

I can't believe this had to be me 😭literally why did i have to be trans. i am not capable of this, i wasn't before i cracked and i'm not now.

more self harm

anyway going to go play some shitty game I barely care about and feel shitty and hope i die and think about how shitty everything is and how i'm an emberassment to everyone including me and how i should just kill myself already but i'm too freaked out by being gone to actually do it even though life is hell and i have no hope or anything for the future.

Sorry for being unhinged i'm sure i'll act normal again soon :) :) :)

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 11 points 3 days ago (9 children)

Hung out with a few friends from work today. Was mostly nice but def felt like the odd one out at times. Of course, I was the only... "male bodied" person in the group and only out to one of them. She was also the one who said I'd be the person out of us to sit in the passenger seat of the Uber because the driver was a man. I guess I get it since I still look like a guy, but didn't feel great though.

I hope my HRT starts working better soon. I don't want to play act at being a girl and that's what it feels like I'd be doing if I tried to socially transition in the state I'm in.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 13 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Wtf that was kind of a shitty thing to say, trans people are more at risk than cis people. Your friend has some work to do and has gotta stop seeing you as a dude-lite. You're a woman

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